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i hate my family
I am 15/f and i hate my family. This isn't a "teen rebellion" thing, i cant stand it here. My only sibling is in college, and when hes gone, its better but still bad. When hes home, my life is hell. Im sensitive and he makes fun of me and my insecurities, he embarasses me in front of my friends, he drinks and yells at me, and i hate it. My parents are always fighting because my mom tries so hard and it stresses her so she takes it out on me by yelling at me and teling me in worthless and she doesnt want me here. My dads an alcoholic and drives when drunk and he totals his car a lot and we have money problems. Every night i cry myself to sleep and i want to get away from here. I cant live here, its killing me. Ive wanted to commit suicide for years now, but i havent because i dont want to hurt my boyfriend and my best friends. I dont know what else to do, ive tried talking to my brother but he just pushes me out of the way and leaves. My dad just starts drinking and he drives away, and my mom just yells. I wanted to go to therapy but my parents wont let me because they dont want me telling other people my problems, they told me i have to handle it myself. i need help, please. what can i do to get away from my family?
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Get emmancipated. It requires you get a job, but it allows you to move out and get away. You basically divorce your parents and become a legal adult (but you still can't drink). I had a boyfriend that did just that. He moved in with an older friend and finished high school. He's doing pretty well now.
There is, of course, an option B. That would be to call social services with a legitimate case, and in your case it's mental abuse. You also want to cite your dad's drinking problem and general neglect aside from verbal abuse. The state should then take you away and probably throw you in foster care. That would mean you don't need a means to support yourself, and foster parents come in 2 flavors... awesome and craptastic. If you get craptastic you call your worker and they'll move you... there is the possibility that you'll end up in a group home... which is like a dorm, really, lots of beds and kids...
Point is, that's the easiest and fastest way out of your house. Just don't expect your family to be happy with you. Like at all.
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this sound terrible, i feel really bad, i know what your going thru so please let me know if theres anything i can do to help.
first of all please please please do not commit suicide! that will solve nothing! your 15 and at 18 you dont have to have anything to do with your family and you are free to live an amazing life without them, dont give up now.
i seems like tALKING to your parents or sibling is impossbile at this point, since you have money problems and your dad is an alchoholic you can call child services. (heres where to fin the phone # [Link](Mouse over link to see full location))
but if you think this is something your parents will get abusive about then be careful.
maybe ask your school guidance councelor
if you think this isnt an option you can go live with a friend or your boyfriend or something.
or run away from home which i do not suggest unless its the only option besides killing yourself.
as for the therapy, there are probably therapists you can see without you parents knowing (but again be careful)
good luck with everythinggg! let me know if there is anyrthing at all that i can help with!
also pleasee please please let me know how this works out?
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Sweetheart I first of all never want you to be thinking that any of this is your fault. They made their own choices. I think you did a good thing come here for advice in secret instead of risking things with your fam. Just because your family says to not let loose who they really are, you should if you are against it. Stand up for what you beleive in even if you stand alone. There are many online therapsts (since I am not one) that you could seek, even links with people in similar situations for some real expert help. God bless and may you find what you are looking for!! GOOD LUCK!!!
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