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it is too late?
I haven't seen my girlfriend in 6 months. I didn't realize how long 6 months was. she isn't doing bad, I mean she misses me, but her happiness outweighs her loneliness. Me on the other hand, I've never felt this lonely before. I love this girl. but its gotten to the point where when I think about her I cant conjure up any happy thoughts. it just feels empty. I feel so far away from her right now, emotionally and mentally. am i just being negative? It used to be fine. when i would start to feel lonely i would just think about holding her in my arms and it would ease the pain. now I feel nothing. I see her in two weeks. I SHOULD be excited but Im more nervous about it. I'm scared we spent too much time apart and now its too late. I'm scared that when I see her in two weeks and hold her, I wont feel the same way. I don't want this to happen. she made me so extremely happy only a few months ago. I want to be excited about her again. I want holding her hand to be different from holding any other girl's hand. how it used to be. I want my love back. I've talked to her about it and we aren't gonna wait this long to see each other again. not ever. but I'm scared there wont be a next time. I'm afraid that I've lost what I had and I can't get it back. I just miss her.
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You can't go six months like that. It just doesn't work. People need more connection, and what you're going through is perfectly normal.
The natural human response is to withdraw from pain. Think about burning yourself. If you touch something hot, you're going to jerk back suddenly. Even if you press your hand down and let it burn, eventually self preservation will take over and you will pull your hand back.
Thats what you're doing emotionally.
The bad news is, you might see her, it will all come crashing back, and then all retreat even more when she's gone. The good news is, its not in any way too late.
I did distance for a long time. Saw each other once a month. It started out awkward each time as we got used to each other again. You will too. Just try to keep from being 6 months again, its hard to keep connection going that long.
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It is common that two people who are together and cannot see each other tend to lose interest with one another. You and her are going about your daily lives. The longer the two of you are apart the more and more it gets easier to forget and move on without feeling guilt. If you want to regain the feelings you once had for her than before she comes sit down and write to yourself adn to her ten things you love/like about that person and ask her to do the same. If that doesn't help than do something with her that you wouldn't normally do to bring back the spark. Talking is also always good. She how she feels. What a girl thinks is always and should always be important. If you still cannot seem to shake the feeling of nothing when you think of her than I believe it is time to move on.
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lets be honest first of all, love is a bitch. two i think that even though it has been six months that when you see her you should tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way then let it be over and done with. if she doesn't feel the same way, then tell her that you are able to fix this.
if you really love her then you will be able to fix anything even a six month separation.
good luck
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