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Okay so my best friend since... ever and me are fighting, well sorta. I'll give you the story it may be long but it is essential to knowing my problem:
Okay so yeah we have been best friends for six years {sophmores}. And now he is changing! It is horrible, his parents are seperating he is moving away, in a year!!! I feel so bad for him! However he has treated me like crap! He won't text me or anything! I txted him one day and asked him something. When he didn't answer i got my cousins phone and txted him, and he replied to him!!!!
When I asked him why he wouldn't talk to me he says he forgot to! Also he only likes to talk to me or be my partner, or eat lunch with me when no one else in the world is around! Its like he is so into being popular now.
He has changed his looks, wears different clothes, and he flirts with sluts. I know that sounds bad, but its true. He used to like descent people and now he talks to girls who will just use him!! But what can i say to him??? Nothing , its his life. But its eating away at me watching him change. Also his grades are dropping. And why is it he can talk about anything to someone he doens't know, yet me his friend, can't even have a conversation!
What should I do, after he didn't txt me a week ago tomrorow i got mad at him, and have been ever since! But i miss him i guess... he doesn't even care i am mad at him!! He doesn't even CARE>>>>>>>>>>> ugh.
Is he my friend or what, what should I do. I don't wanna watch him change, but i guess i just don't have much a choice do i? :(
16/f
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It has to totally be driving you crazy that someone this close to you becomes distant and different towards you. You get so used to having him a certain way, and when that goes away, it kinda scares you and of course you want to know what's going on....
Establishing what's been happening in his world lately, he maybe escaping his own realm. His world is about to change, and you know he has no idea what his life will be like after that change. Perhaps he is running from you now, only fearing that he will have to anyway if he has to move.
I know the saying, you hurt the ones you love, but surely, you dont want to give up in finding out what you can do to get this closeness back.
All in all, you have to let him know you care about what's happening to him and let him know you are there for him, in listening, or whatever it is he might need. But don't push the issue either. Note to him some how that he is affecting you and it is hurting you that he's pushing away and his actions are just not normal.
He has to be given that space, unfortunately, to give him that time to come back to the real world.
All that negative attention he's getting from those other people are only temporary...he will see that on his own.
I hope this helps. I know it hurts to lose a forever friend. Been there...
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There's a few reasons to why he is acting the way he is. First off, this may be the only way that seems to him that he can handle this break up between his parents. The second reason could be that he he is trying to drift away from you because he is scared of what will happen when he moves and won't be able to see you. The third reason could be that he just isn't realizing what exactly he is doing, but in my opinion choice a and choice b seem to be what this guy is doing.
You guys have been friends for six years now, I'm sure he is just out of sorts with everything that is going on. He probably realizes how hard the move will be on both of you. You need to sit him down, in person* and talk to him about this. I can tell you really do care about him a lot, and make sure he realizes that. If he keeps doing this, I'm not very sure on what to do from there. You can either keep trying for him, or just let it be. He will though regret what he has done to you when he moves if he keeps up with ignoring you. People do grow up, sometimes not for the better, and sometimes you just have to accept that. If you met him when you guys were only 10, and now your both 16, then of course you both have grown up and changed dramatically. He's probably just not handling everything very well, and I'm sure by you being mad at him is just making things worse which makes him just block you out, even though he does care about you. Just talk to him, I hope everything works out. If you need more advice, just email me!(:
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wooow what a messy situation....you kno i rily think your a very good friend and you are exactly the type of person he needs right now....so you sed his parents are seperating so i think that is what is getting at him he is simply frustrated....what you should do is just try and talk to him about the whole situation,but if he gets agressive or defensive dont push it ,just give him some space for a while to allow him get the heat off then talk again .....lemme kno how it all works out and wat you yhink of my advyc..xxxx!
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