Member Since: December 4, 2009
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so basicllyyy i keep having these problems with every trip and idk what to do. i have friends but just everytime we go on a schoo ltrip of something we have to take a bus and i always worry about who to sit with. to the point where i dont go becuase im too scared about the bus ride. please help me. what do i do? (link)
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hiii sweeeerie....what i think you shud do is just choose one of em randomly and sit with that person....but you should try and chat with the rest too even if theyre not close to you ,i kno it wud be hard but evn if its jst for 5 mins..laugh when som1 makes a joke and stuff like that....lemme kno how it goes and what u sincerely think of the advice....xxxx!
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Okay so my best friend since... ever and me are fighting, well sorta. I'll give you the story it may be long but it is essential to knowing my problem:
Okay so yeah we have been best friends for six years {sophmores}. And now he is changing! It is horrible, his parents are seperating he is moving away, in a year!!! I feel so bad for him! However he has treated me like crap! He won't text me or anything! I txted him one day and asked him something. When he didn't answer i got my cousins phone and txted him, and he replied to him!!!!
When I asked him why he wouldn't talk to me he says he forgot to! Also he only likes to talk to me or be my partner, or eat lunch with me when no one else in the world is around! Its like he is so into being popular now.
He has changed his looks, wears different clothes, and he flirts with sluts. I know that sounds bad, but its true. He used to like descent people and now he talks to girls who will just use him!! But what can i say to him??? Nothing , its his life. But its eating away at me watching him change. Also his grades are dropping. And why is it he can talk about anything to someone he doens't know, yet me his friend, can't even have a conversation!
What should I do, after he didn't txt me a week ago tomrorow i got mad at him, and have been ever since! But i miss him i guess... he doesn't even care i am mad at him!! He doesn't even CARE>>>>>>>>>>> ugh.
Is he my friend or what, what should I do. I don't wanna watch him change, but i guess i just don't have much a choice do i? :(
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wooow what a messy situation....you kno i rily think your a very good friend and you are exactly the type of person he needs right now....so you sed his parents are seperating so i think that is what is getting at him he is simply frustrated....what you should do is just try and talk to him about the whole situation,but if he gets agressive or defensive dont push it ,just give him some space for a while to allow him get the heat off then talk again .....lemme kno how it all works out and wat you yhink of my advyc..xxxx!
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(Sorry, it's long. The last paragraph has the actual question--the first paragraph is just the backround story)
Okay, I know I'm kind of young to be saying this but about two years ago I fell in love. Not teenage girl crush type of love, the real love. I fell in love with my best friend. We were friends since I was nine and he was ten. When I turned 13 we started growing feelings towards each other. Last year, on my 14th birthday, he asked me to be his g/f and, of course, I was ecstatic and said yes. We fell in love. I couldn't go one day (literally) without hearing his voice. He was my whole life. He was everything too me. I knew he was the one, there was (is) no life or happiness without him. Last year on the first day of summer, he gave me a promise ring and told me that no matter what I would be his love. I was so happy with him. I felt like my life was complete before it even started. I turned 15 and things were going great until he told me he was moving to new york. I couldn't stop crying. Every second I could spend with him was precious. Finally, he moved and I felt like my life was temporarily over (I knew he would come back for me someday). On september 22 I got a really sweet email. I had to leave so I didn't have time to reply. The next night, I went back to my emailing list to reply when I saw an email from his brother. I opened it first.
He died, Sep. 23 at approximatly 9:23 PM. It felt like my heart stopped beating. I thought Every one told me things would get better, time heals everything. Things have gotten better, externally. But internally, it finds worse every second without him. Like I'm falling and every one that's around me is just watching. I don't know what to do. I've been on a few dates but there is no guy that I am attracted to. It's not that they aren't attractive, but they aren't him. What do I do? I don't want to tell anyone because I don't want to stop hurting emotionally--the pain is the only thing I have left--but I want to be able to like a guy or even just form some kind of relationship with a guy. Can anyone please help me? (link)
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OMG sweety im sure it must be really tough to deal with this kind of loss,my advice may sound brutal but wat ill say is you shud avoid doing anything that will remind you of him,im not saying that you should forget him but for the mean time just avoid anything that you used to do together like surfing .....wait until you heal more because it will only make things worse..but if you wait for some time befor going back to the things youll actualli enjoy it and smile when you think of him,but right now itll just end up hurting you more.....tek care sweety nd lemme kno hw it goes.....xxx!
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sorry it's kind of long.
lets just put this out here: i consider myself to be 110% straight. i could never even CONSIDER being with another girl.
another thing, i have never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone. although i've had MANY opportunities to be in a relationship, i've passed them all up. i think i have commitment issues or something, or just a fear of being "trapped" in a relationship.
ONE more thing-i have WAY more guy friends then i do girl friends. I find girls...very annoying and over dramatic, and i try not to get involved in drama. My closest friends are girls, but i get along much better with guys.
anyways, lately, some of my guy friends have jokingly called me prude. they've also told me i was a lesbian. my closest guy friend ASKED in complete seriousness if i was a lesbian (his reason being because i hung out with my best friend alot, who is a girl).
if theres ONE thing i hate, it's being accused of something i'm not. being called a lesbian really makes me upset and angry, and i've made it clear to my buy friends. whenever it comes up, i get quiet or i tell them to knock it off. it's a touchy subject for me.
the other day, i was out to dinner with my mom and my sisters. i told my mom something that was surprising to her, and she says "why don't you just tell me your a lesbian and we'll be all set!" (she said this jokingly) i looked at her and i said "don't joke about that", my natural response. my moms smile fades and she goes "you aren't are you?" and i said "no mom..." and then she was quiet and i started to talk to my sister. when i looked back at her, she was studying me strangely and i asked her what was wrong and she says "you AREN'T, are you?" which made me angry, and i said "MOM, i can't BELIEVE you would even THINK something like that. of COURSE i'm not."
I'm so afraid my mom thinks i actually am a lesbian. because, i mean, it would make sense. never having a boyfriend and all that. my sister TOTALLY didnt help when she said "mom, just because she doesn't have any feelings for guys doesn't make her a lesbian." if there was ever a time i wanted to kill my sister, it would have been then.
It is SO untrue that i don't have feelings for guys. me and my best friend are BOY CRAZY. we think almost every guy we know is either cute or hot. and i have crushes on guys on a regular basis.
it feels like NO ONE (except my best friend) can understand how i feel about all this. it gives me a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach worrying about why people would have to WONDER if i'm straight or not. i've NEVER done anything to make me seem like a lesbian other than the fact that i've never had a boyfriend (and that's more out of fear than no interest in it).
i just really need to know what to do.
please, DON'T give me the "it's OK to have feelings for girls" talk. because if i saw that i think i might cry in frusturation. i DO NOT have ANY feelings WHATSOEVER for stupid girls. thats why i asked this very long question.
it's not exactly something i can just ignore either. so i don't know if that's a good solution.
please, just reading this whole question and answering it with something would be greatly apreciated. it's a very frusturating and confusing situation and it makes me angry and sad.
thanks so much (link)
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OMG! i tottaly get where you are coming from,i understand how frustrating it is.....i think all this is putting too much pressure on you...My numba one advice is dont let anyone pressurize you in doing somthing you are not ok with.i get you are into guys but have some comitment issues,i used to be like that too...so dont go having a boyfriend when you arenot tottaly ready for it,just because you want to prove ur straight,i mean to hell with what anyone thinks,u know what u are and what you are not,so just go ahead with yourlyf and have a boyfriend when you are 100% okay......lemme kno what you think abwt my advyc.....nd how it wrks out!
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Ouch!! Advice?
'Look, I know you like me... It's pretty obvious. And I really really don't like you. So you should get over me.'
I don't even like this guy. (link)
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HMMMM....i think this is som1 that desperatly wants your atteneion,so just do the opposite dont respond to him at ol.....lemme kno how it goes sweeerie!
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So I'm pretty much in tears right now. When you here it, it'll probably sound retareded but if you were actually "there" it would have felt horrible. Friday, I was suppose to meet my 2 best friends at the mall. I told one of them they had to be there by 6, my parents had plans. So i got there at 6:30, and they were both still at there house, so my parents were like were not leaving you there, were goin to drop you off at the game. So they ended up callin and i was like sorry my parents made me go to the game. The next day, i went to my friends house and i was going to invite one of the friends from the other night but she was like "oh i don't wanna go with her" So i texted her and was like whats ur problem? my parents said i couldnt go blah blah blah. Then she just started cursing at me, saying how i am nobody and how my mom "buys me love" and all this stuff that eventually made me just break down crying. Then on Monday the other girl who wasnt involved but also was one of my "best friends" from that night just texted me saying i have no right to tell this girl stuff i said (which i don't know what was bad) and how i was nothing and needed a reality check. My mom eventually saw all of this and texted them both back saying to please stop. Then the girls mom got involved and called my mom, where my mom started to yell at her because she already had problems before (we took the girl on a trip, and her parents pretty much didn't even thank them and yelled at them after) so now im stuck. I just lost my 2 best friends, my moms pissed, and I'm just alone. Help? (link)
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awwww....im sure uv got every reason to be sad ,but you shud always remember were all human and we all get jelous somtimes.im sure those friends u were talking about were just envying you or jelous because uv got somthing they ol wishd they had but dont.....so what i think you shud do is just keep a little distance from your friendz for now and just let them get out all the heat...im sure u guyz will work things out and be back to friendz in no time...
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