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what is the best way to bring up a serious conversation with your boyfriend
hey! i posted this question (btw thanks to all who helped!)
i really want to talk to him about this the next time he is home from college. but lets say im afraid to speak up and bring up a awkward topic like an ex girlfriend to him. im a shy spoken girl with stuff like that. and i usually push it off when i do have the chance. i dont want to talk to him about this via videochat, phone or especially aim/text. i feel like if he wanted to avoid making me upset he would lie to me about it or something or make up bullshit excuses.
so next time i see him in person, how should i just start it off? i want to know how i can say it in advance so i dont choke on my words when the moment comes.
and any tips for when the moment would be right? i know not around people, or when were not sober or tired or like out to dinner, any tips on when would be a good time, and how to confront him with this subject?
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I know this sounds cliche but there is no right time. Do it when you feel the time is right to tell him and when you feel you should talk about it. Maybe say something to him like "Hey there's been something I've been meaning to talk to you about". What ever you do don't say "We need to talk" to a boy that is code word for..."potential break-up". Just talk to him like a friend...I mean you guys should be friends as well when you're in a relationship communication and trust are the two things you need in a relationship!
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when its just you and him, you're alone, its quiet, and you're both in a reasonably good mood, just grab his hand, turn him towards you, and say something along these lines; "honey,(or whichever petname you prefer, if any. if not, just say his name, this lets him know that you want his full attention and that you're serious)i want to talk to you about something thats been kind of bugging me for a while. its nothing bad, and i don't want you to get defensive" and then just say it before you lose confidence.
now, i didn't see your other question, so i don't know what you're going to talk to him about; whether its bad, whether you're talking to him about cheating, or whatever. just just adlib wherever needed, or change whatever. but still say something along those lines. ABOVE ALL: don't get emotional about it. when i bring up a serious topic with my boyfriends, i always make the mistake of getting emotional; crying, yelling, etc. and this will either make them not want to lie to keep you calm, or chase them away. so be cool, be calm, and make sure you're both in a good mood. this is the most important part: keep eye contact and keep your voice even and confident.
i hope i helped, and whatever it is you're going to talk to him about, keep it cool and i hope it works out! :) take care.
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