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I don't know if I should be worried or not
I'm a girl, and I'm 16. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months almost six, I know it's not long, but we've mutually been liking eachother since the 7th grade. I'd even want to say that I've been in love with him since then. This is all kind of pointless to what I have to ask, but I figured I'd share a little information.
Anyway, his best friend is a guy. He had a girlfriend. They recently broke up. We were together, and he just left my house to go be with her and comfort her, because she was so devestated that HIS best friend dumped her. Why does he need to comfort his best friends, ex? I got really mad at the fact that he just got up from my house and went to be with her.
Is this something that I should worry about, that I'll be the second best always, I'm not trying to sound selfish. But your girlfriend normally comes first, right? I'm just wondering if I overreacted,or if its something I should be mad and concered about.
By the way, he's done this three times to me already.
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Yes, this is something to worry about. I don't care what his explanations are. Trust your gut on this one. We women don't listen to our gut enough. Yours is telling you what to think here. You don't need anyone else to confirm what you already know. This is wrong. Your boyfriend is sending out a not so quiet vibe that his feelings about your relationship may have changed. You need to have an honest conversation with him about this, in a time of peace, not when you are upset or crying or angry. Bring it up when things are calm and try to speak calmly to him about it. He's a guy and guys are more likely to listen to us girls when we're not so emotional. Dumb, but that's just the way it is. Then you'll need to make a decision as to wether you deserve to be treated this way, if you should leave, or if you don't mind his feelings for another girl and want to stay. Its up to you, but listen to your gut. You're a lot smarter than you may think.
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He's left your house three times to go be with his best friend's ex girl? Yeah, if I were you, I'd be fairly concerned about that. Even if they've been friends for a while, it's weird. You shouldn't just leave anyone you're hanging out with to go hang out with someone else unless it's an emergency. And, of course, you especially shouldn't leave your girlfriend's house to go comfort another girl.. three times..
If I were you, I'd talk to him about it and see what's up. It's fine if he wants to cheer her up or whatever, but it could've waited until you guys were done hanging out. He could have told her that he'd come see her in a few hours. I'm guessing she's around your age, so breaking with a boyfriend isn't exactly a tragedy or something that I would consider an emergency.
Just talk to him about it and see why he feels the need to leave when he's hanging out with you to go hang out with her all the time. That's not a very good way to treat your girlfriend. It really doesn't make sense anyway because he's with you and she's upset so he goes to cheer her up. But when he leaves you, you get upset I'm sure. So really he's choosing you being upset over her being upset.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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