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What am I doing wrong?
I feel like my so called "best friend" doesnt care about me. I realyl don't feel like anyone does really, and that sounds so stupid. I mean if i'm upset or something and just have my hands over my face, no one asks me if i'm okay or anything. I just don't understand what i'm doing wrong. I try to be the best friend that I can be and end up failing miserably. Just like with everything else. I try being the best sister, daughter, anything and I fail. What am I doing wrong?
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If you don't believe your best friend cares about you, *talk about it. Approach her and say what comes to your mind about the situation. I can see where your coming from about feeling like no one cares about you. I've been in the same position and thrived for attention in any ways. But the thing you have to realize is that people do care about you, but the people that care about you the most is your family. I'm sure you do not fail at being the best sister, or best daughter, but no one says you have to or should be the "best." I'm sure your family loves you the most and doesn't expect you to be perfect. So i say just love yourself, love your family, and talk to your best friend. Everything will work out!
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you dont need to try and be something your not.
Just carry on as normal.
you dont need to try and impress people or try and help them out.
if you are feeling down. ask them for advice.
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Stop trying to be EVERYTHING to EVERYONE. You'll make yourself downright sick with ulcers if you continue living like that. Just relax, don't take things too seriously and live in the moment.
You're worried about "what if" rather than "what is" Nobody has come up to you and said you're a shitty friend, terrible daughter, sister etc. have they? They won't either. what's driving them away is this fearful behavior. They can sense you're emotionally tied up in knots and don't know how to handle that.
Your friend may not have known how to respond to your face in hands it happens. She may have felt you could deal with it. She can't be there to hold your hand but if you asked for help I'm sure she'd give it. there's NO problem with any of these people in your life that I can see based on facts presented.
You might not like this but you're too wound up inside and fearful of people hating you etc. etc. and it's not normal behavior. Forget therapy or guidance counselors who know zilch and see a medical professional about obsessive fear and worry about being a failure and people not liking you. You've got to kick this before it becomes even bigger.
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