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Housing and Friendship problem
Cutting to the chase:
My best friend and I had been planning to get an apartment together for about a year. She joined a sorority last semester and she clicked with two other girls in her sorority. Meanwhile, she was talking to me about still getting an apartment together.
The other day, she told me she had been talking about getting an apartment together with her sorority sisters at the same time and that she was going to live with them next year instead. BASICALLY, she told me all our plans of living together were not gonna happen because I'm not in her sorority.
Now I have to figure out my housing situation next year (I don't have any one else I would live with) and there's this awkward tension between her and I.
This really hurts my feelings. I told her and she was like "Yes, I know I pulled a douche move, but I feel like you'll have other options. I know what I did was bad, but I want you to know I'm still your friend."
I just feel like I hit a brick wall. I hate my college. I have no one to live with next year. The person I thought was my best friend is leaving me for two other girls. I see friendships this year dwindling because of housing situations. It's hard to maintain friendships when one is living off campus and the other is on.
Any advice? I need to move forward, but I don't know how.
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Hey there,
I know exactly how you feel. You don't want to live alone, you want her as a closer friend, and life is rough.
If she totally blew you off, then maybe she really wasn't your friend.. I know someone just like this. There was this girl, we were best friends for at least seven years and then she justs uses me and dumps our friendship for my brother (whos a complete jerk/player). Exactly as your 'friends' did to you. And if your friend knew what she was doing was going to frustrate you, then again.. not really a friend.
Did you tell her that friends don't treat friends like crap? She shouldn't of just dumped all your plans together without asking you if that was alright. You asked her first about the housing situation.
I think you should confront her and say 'I did not appreciate it when you dumped me for no reason when we had plans the whole time. I have no one to live with now, and no, I do not have other options'. Make sure you are alone with her and tell her firmly. If you want, say you would like to continue to be friends but only if she will have more respect for you.
You should not let housing situations bring down your friend life. Friends are everywhere, you just have to go searching. Get involved in an activity you like, say Hi to people you normally wouldn't, smile at everyone, and don't be afraid to be yourself. If you have time, ask if you could come in and visit someone on campus (or off if you are on). Try to get close to someone in one of your classes.
It may be hard at times, but stay positive, smile, keep organized, make time to be with people, communicate, and don't forget to give yourself some leisure time to do what you love and relax. Friends will likely come to you if you are happy and comfortable with yourself.
You can achieve anything. And if you have to... let go and move on. You are your number one friend after all; sometimes it is easier that way <3
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I see where you are coming at. Why don't you just make other new friends. It will slowly take the tension you have with your other friend. you will forget what she did and you have your new best friend to support you. It would be the beginning of a new friendship. Does that answer you question???
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