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Cousin "following" boyfriend.
I have no idea what is the best way to approach the situation.
My cousin, I don't really know her well and we're like distant cousins.
My boyfriend, best friend, I know him very well.
So my cousin and boyfriend go to the same college, stay in the same dorm building. They've met before, but do not talk to one another.
One night my boyfriend goes to a party and texts me and tells me cousin is there. I'm like oh cool. Then he says she kept staring at him and was following him. He isn't the type to confront a female about weird things. I was thinking that was SO weird. She texted me and said she saw him there. Ok, cool. So another night my boyfriend goes out and she's there. Again she's following him and walking by him. I'm again ok wow, that's weirddddd. So, Friday he's out again. This time he tells me, "your cousin here and she's following me again, dancing crazy around me, and pointing at me." What! He then says "Can you please talk to her about it because its making me feel really unconfortable. BUT don't be mean about it because I do have to see her around."
I told my mom this and she says I should say specifically what she was doing and to tell her its making me uncomfortable and him. Is that appropriate? If so, how should I put it in words?
Thanks!
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Ask if he likes him. Like ask why she follows him. Maybe she will tell you because she thinks you can help her and maybe she won't say anything because she might also think that it's none of your business. Trust me, I had to deal with a problem like this too. If she tells you then maybe you could tell her to lay off a little bit or something because it makes him uncomfortable. Actually just do what you think is right. Hope it helps! ;)
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You should talk to her about it seeing as your boyfriend told you to do so plus he's feeling uncomfortable and he's probably not going to confront her about it say that her following him
and pointing towards him is making him feel uncomfortable and you'd appericate it if she stopped also yes what your mother said is appropriate to say :)
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For goodness sake, is your boyfriend four years old?
If he is uncomfortable, it's his job, not yours, to speak her.
At this point, it sounds like he knows her even better then you do.
Do not get in the middle of this, instead, empower your boyfriend.
Let him know you trust him to deal with this respectfully and honestly, and that you'll back him up whatever happens.
But be very firm that he needs to be able to stand up for himself when something upsets him. If might be different if this was going on in a room where you all three where togeather, or at family fuction, but it isn't. It's happening at school in a dorm, and he is charge of how he behaves and who he interacts with in a dorm. Not you.
For all you know, all your cousin is fishing for is a friendly hello, and awknowledgement of recongizing one another.
Stay out of it until he speaks to her about what he is finding awkward. After that, simply back him up if anyone asks you about it.
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