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When trying to be friends with my recent ex....
Well, I know that rebounding is no good, but I made the mistake of rushing into something :/. Yesterday I found out my ex boyfriend was out with this girl that he used to like (and who i know he likes now) and just hearing this made me break down. I knew I had to talk to someone, so I ended up talking to this guy who I have always had a thing for. On the phone I told him what I found out and how I felt sad and he kind of cheered me up. Then out of nowhere I told him that even though I'm not over my ex, I kind of like him! Ahh so today at school I was hanging out with my ex and my friend. My friend has a class with the guy I like so I asked her if he said anything...but my ex was confused and when I told him he seemed to change his mood. :/ I didn't think I was hurting his feelings because he flat out told me to move on because he doesn't see me as anything but a friend. My question is, was it a bad idea to tell him? Should I never bring up guys in front of him??
P.S. The guy who I like told me that he likes someone at the moment, so it didn't work out.
Thanks!
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Being friends with exes is VERY hard. I'm currently going through this situation now and its not easy at all. You're of course going to break down if you find he's with someone else its natural...but at the same time he's going to as well. Although guys don't show their feelings they still have them. It might not be a great idea to talk to one another about your recent relationships or anything having to do with relationships. Just be casual with on another talk about school, movies, or tv or something else.
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He probably got a little jealous 'cause he didn't think you were going to move on so quick.
But you shouldn't feel bad at all for telling him! He went out with a girl, so you can talk to any guy you want!
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No, I don't think it's a bad idea to tell your ex that you like someone else. As long as you're not obviously doing it just to make him jealous (which he would probably see right through). But casually mentioning it, or letting him overhear you talk about it with a friend, is fine. Especially since he told you to move on, and since he's seeing someone else.
Will it make him feel bad or jealous? Well, possibly a little. But he'll have to deal with that. Sometimes, even if you don't want to be with your ex anymore, you still feel weird seeing them with someone else. It's like, "I don't want her, but I don't want anyone else to have her, either." Which is silly, but that's sometimes how people feel about their exes. That may be what yours is feeling. But hey, he let you go, so he has to deal with any feelings that causes him. Just don't blatantly rub it in his face.
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