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Definition of cheating in a relationship
So, last night I was at a party without my boyfriend. My boyfriend was home sick, actually, and he said I should totally go to the party anyway without him. Well, I ended up giving this really hott guy a blowjob. My friend was totally telling me that my boyfriend was going to dump me because I was giving another guy head. Is giving someone else a blow job cheating? I haven't told my boyfriend because now I'm afraid he's going to get mad and break up with me. I don't want him to dump me. So, what is the definition of cheating in a relationship? Did I cheat? Should I tell him?
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yes, you cheated. and yes, you need to tell him.
Just put yourself in his shoes..how would you feel about it if he ate some girl out at a party and never told you..or if you found out from some other person at the party?
The most mature and honorable thing you can do is tell him straight up and deal with whatever consequences that brings.
Good Luck!
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Tell your boyfriend that you cheated on him. It doesn't seem like you have a brain but if you have a heart its going to get to you and your gunna tell him anyways. If you have neither someone at the party must have seen and who says they guy that you gave the bj to isn't bragging to his friends about it. Its gunna get from them to him. The sooner you tell him the better off you are on him not getting mad at you and stuff
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yes you did and yes you should.
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Wait, you are unsure if your boyfriend might be upset? I am honestly not certain if this question is for real.
Of course you cheated and of course he will be mad. I cannot say if he will dump you or not but I am certain that I would terminate the relationship if I were in his place. I am not trying to be mean, but this goes way beyond a little mistake. Most people would consider making out (or less) cheating let alone oral sex.
As for whether you should tell him, well, that really depends on what you want. If you want to deceive him, and to further disrespect him in order to keep him with you, then I guess you shouldn't tell him.
However, if you have any sort of real feelings for this guy then you would respect him enough to tell him, even if it means you might get dumped. No one deserves to be in a dishonest relationship, its one of the most insulting and degrading things possible.
Frankly I am kind of shocked that you are only evaluating this situation from your point of view- what you want, your fear that he will be angry, etc. I would be more concerned with him being hurt rather than him being mad.
Whatever you do, keep this in mind. If he finds out from someone else, he will never, ever forgive you. At that point he will be hurt far more than if he hears it from you now and any chance of reparing the trust between you will be lost forever.
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Anything sexual with another guy is cheating. Yes you should tell him. He probably will break up with you, and frankly I don't blame him.
xoxo,
dottie4
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yes, you did cheat, and you should probably tell your boyfriend because it will get worse if he finds out later on
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