Ok I dont feel like i am very pretty. i feel fat and i kinda have some acne. but my friends and family tell me im poretty but i dont believe them. i havent had a boyfriend in a while and my self confidence is slipping into danger level zone. my friends are all gorgeous so are my siblings and everyone gawks over them. i feel pretty crappy. so can someone please tell me ow i can be prettier so i dont feel like such a loser? im 15 and female.
You posted your pictures because you want help on how to enhance you physical appearance. What I noticed on your first picture is that you have beautiful eyes. I know you hairstyle is part of your personal style but it covers those beautiful eyes. I suggest put your bangs to the side so that your eyes can be seen because the truly are beautiful. I notice you have some minor acne which can be easily taken care of with cleansers or medication (I know medication sounds like you had severe acne but you don't ask you doctor to refer you to a dermatologist after all you are only 15 and are bound to have a few pimples). I also noticed you don't use make-up unless its really important to you not to use make-up, I suggest you use mascara, eye liner, and eyeshadow to enhance like i said your gorgeous eyes.
You mentioned that you feel fat and ugly. One you are not ugly at all and two you aren't FAT. I just think you need to mold the parts of your body that you aren't happy with. For example: if you want you legs to be thicker work them out, or if like me you want a slimmer stomach work it out...don't sit around and wish to have a body that you aren't working on. I'm not a fat person I just had baby fat on my stomach and I always put off working out because it's not too noticeable but I finally decided that even though I don't look fat its more about the way i want my body to look. I feel great now that I've started to work out and see results.
spixieeex3 answered Wednesday October 28 2009, 4:23 pm: Beauty is skin deep. You need to love yourself the way you are, on the inside and on the outside. plenty of people haven't had boyfriends yet, I'm 17 and I still haven't had one. The right person will come along eventually and will love you for who you are. You can't compare yourself to your friends. They are them, and you are you. You have to have confidence in yourself, everybody has flaws in their appearances. We live in such a judgmental world, and it's understandable for you to feel this way. But it doesn't matter what other people think, all that matters is what you think. [ spixieeex3's advice column | Ask spixieeex3 A Question ]
toughlove answered Wednesday October 28 2009, 4:20 pm: First of all - you are only 15. I know at this age sometimes things seem worse than they really are- have confidence in the fact that there are many more changes to come, and you will grow into a woman that is right for you. Our image is as good as we can take care of it - if you have acne, don't pick at it, find out what is causing the acne (most likely your hormones) in which case, just let it ride out. Look around - most people your age do have acne!
Second - No matter how many times someone tells you, that you are pretty - it won't matter unless you personally feel that you are. Your behaviour, of putting yourself down - is making you feel worse than you may think you are. Pick a few things about yourself that you do like? (how awesome your hair is!) or your eyes, or your nose..pick a few things that you do like and wouldn't change - now focus on those. We all have things that we don't like about ourselves - but we can't always change them. Things you can change, like weight (exercise and a sensible diet) might work to have you feel better. Of course exercise is aversive - we don't like it at first but it does feel good after the first couple of times.
All in all - you must change your perceptions about yourself before you can ever believe in someone else telling you. Focus on positive things about you and naturally you will have more confidence.
And remember - you are only 15 - in another 2 -3 years, you will be changing and give it another 2 after that - and you will look very different! Just look in yourself for that confidence. =) [ toughlove's advice column | Ask toughlove A Question ]
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