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i need advice on breaking up :(
me and boyfriend after being together a year and a month have decided to "break up".
i am moving out of his place and back into my house with my family.
we have had malicious fights and now we are doing this to
"save our realtionship". does that sound ethical?
i mean we both still love eahcother and will hang out--i will give him rides to school (we have class togther) and work (we still work together lol) and yeah.
we just needed to be ourselves again and not like an old mean fighting married couple that we turned into.
he also has alot he needs to work on like his anger problems and self control- one big reason we broke up....
but the term "broke up" is complicated-he said he wont be dating anyone else-iam the one he loves.
i dont really want to see anyone else either-and when i asked him what our status was he said he didnt want us to be "single"
i agreed
i asked him what we are going to tell people when they ask us if we have a boy/girlfriend and he said "we will say i have a signifigant other who is very signifigant!"
he says we are saving our relationship before it got out of control and ruined and i think so too...
i just needed to vent. its hard.
any thoughts or experiences of your own? lemme know
i'd love to hear it
<3
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i'M sO sOrRy To HeAr ThAt! I think that was a mature decisions on both your parts you took control of the situation and you found a solution which is sad but yet better in the long run. Maybe reflect on why you got into so many fights and what they were about.
Breaks are hard...they're not easy it takes a lot of patient and time to help the relationship. At this time you guys are going through a bump in the road and may seem like its never ending but you'll figure it out. Its good you guys are on good terms and that you still have asame routine its good because it shows you both still care and that you want to make this work!
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take things slow. i dont know your age but you sound young. so be careful. rushing things can really hurt and i am glad you all are moving out and taking some time a part. I think you to should "date" do the teenage thing. movies, dinner, skating things like that. start over refresh your relationship.
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Frankly, if you aren't single, then you aren't really broken up.
All it sounds like happened, is you decided not to live togeather.
I honestly believe if you don't get some help, you are going to end up actually and truly broken up... because don't you want a a long-term relationship where you can co-habitate without hurting eachother?
Get some relationship counseling, some guidance from a proffesional. And admit the simple damn truth: If you are both still planning on being loyal to the other, rommantically and sexually, then you aren't broken up, you are just re-thinking your living arrangements.
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