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new girl; my replacement :( jelousy
there is a new girl at my school and she joined my group of friends. she has my exact same name which i have a very unique name so its awkward, she is my same hieght except shes super skinny and very outgoing and friendly and is so pretty. she gets along soo good with my boyfriend and best friend and is exactly like them so they talk about alot of stuff i dont understand. i used to spend every single day with my best friend and boyfriend. and now she is with my bestfriend everyday so i am pushed out n never get to see her n they ditch me. then shes always talking about everything with my boyfriend n she has more inside jokes with both of them than i do n always touches both of them n even held my boyfriend he always talks about her but says their just friends. i havent hungout with my best friend just me n her since the other girl came into the picture even tho we used to daily.. im just jelous :( this is literally the first time iv ben jelous so i have no idea how to deal with it usually nothing bothers me.. they both deny that shes getting between us but its so obvious what do i do
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Well firstly, you are right.. I would be jealous too! You have got to remind your boyfriend and your best friend that you guys reqally are NOT spending time with each other anymore! They probably are so sunken with this girl that they haven't noticed that they were leaving you out. And if a best friend doesn't understand where you are coming from or see your point of view, then.. Is she really your best friend after-all? As for your boyfriend, I suggest you put your foot down. YOU are his girlfriend, he has to spend some amount of time with you, maybe even more than the new girl. Communicate with him. Let him know where you are coming from and WHY you feel insecure about this, it is ok to feel vulnerable and insecure with your boyfriend. It only bring the two of you closer as you guys are both touched on a deeper level.
They seem to have forgotten what was once there, you, so you have to remind them and remind them that your friendships with the two of them are in serious trouble, and you all have to work on it together. They have to come back to reality as it seems like they are avoiding the truth. See how it goes!
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First of all... if your boyfriend ditches you for her and let her held hima nd talks about her all the time... there isa huge chance he is developing a crush on her.
As for this whole issue... I have some advice for you but I'm one of those manipulative kind of girls... so you may want to consider the other advice more than mine.
Whatever you do, do not let that girl know you are jealous....if she finds out she may do morethings to provoke you. Some girls get off by provoking other girl's envy, me being one of those biatches. Anyway, have you heard about keeping your friends close and your enemies closer? Well that is exactly what you should do. Keep her close. If everyone else is in lvoe with ehr then make her the cneter of your world too. Compliment her. Ask her for advice. Invite her to your house. Find out as much as you can about her, her dirty little secrets, who she likes at school, who she doesn't like, her weaknbesses, etc. This will serve two purposes. First of all, you never know when you can find out somethign juicy that you can use in the future. Also, you can use this knowledge to steer her away from your boyfriend and push her into a different direction. If she likes a boy then talk to that boy in private and ask him if he would be itnerested in her and fix them up. Plus if she has a boyfriend not only will she leave yours alone but she may be too busy with him to steal your friends. Also, if you do get to know her it is likelier she will like you and won't let you get left behind and help you get re-incorporated back in the group and she definitely wont try to do anything to hurt you, like flirting with your boyfriend. Also... you may end up liking her :-) Then you can actually be friends. And just in case that doesnt happen... well there's always the pushing her into another directiona dn finding out her juicy secrets. Getting close to her can't possibly hurt.
Also be a bit more affectionate with your boyfriend, especially when you are with your friends and when she is there.... but jsut a little. You don't want to make it obvious you are jealous. You just want to remind whoever is around that he is your boyfriend and you want to keep him focused on you.
Whatever you do, do not flirt with other guys to make him jealous or act mean to the new girl... the key is to keep the good girl image and the good friend and the good girlfriend so that IF your friends are ever forced to choose, you will come on top :-)
I wish you luck,
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