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I've lied, and learned my lesson but some people are still hung up about it
I left my school in 9th grade to be home schooled because I was horribly bullied throughout middle school, and I was always intimidated by those that bullied me. With that said, when I was returning to that school in the last semester of 10th grade. I was terrified of going back. I wanted to forget everything and start all over. I changed my name to a preferred name, and acted like I didn't know anyone (which was very immature, I know). A bunch of people found out and they bullied me even more; taunted me, and spread rumours about me even more to the point where I'd skip school because I'd feel terrified of going. Things have gotten a bit better in 11th grade but I feel like I'm reserved and not able to make friends because I'm always feeling worthless, and like I'll always be rejected? What can I do to have high self esteem, and be able to stand up for myself without feeling bad about it?
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im really sorry you went through all of this..its soo sad and people just never let things go. do you know why?its because they lie themselves but use others faults to make them feel better about themselves. im sorry if my advice isnt the one your looking for but its the most powerful one. time is the only way. time heals everything and time is what makes people forget.
live your life the way you want to live it,being nice and treating people the way you want to be treated. believe in yourself and it will shine through you. beauti isnt from the outside its what you have to offer from the inside that makes you beautiful.
ext time someone asks you why you lied just tell them the truth and make and oath to yourself that you will never lie again. you cant change the past but you can certainly fix the future. if someone comes up to you and goes "haha look at that girl that changed her name and made people believe she was someone else" you just reply back and say" yeah i did it because people like you were bullying me so im sorry if i had the slightest thought to want to be someone else, someone that people would like, someone that people would stop picking on"
If you have a counsellor at your school book an appointment because talking about it will ease the pain...
smile and never show your sad xoxoxo
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It's normal for teenagers to have self esteem issues. With that being said you did have it rough as a little girl, I will give you that. But no one's childhood is completely pleasant. There are always those little things that happened to us growing up that will always stay with us, even into adulthood. Now is the time in your life when you can look back at that situation in music class and laugh, even if it does still mortify you to think about.
Look, you have a friend who has stuck with you through all of this. Instead of focusing on all the people you aren't friends with, focus on the ones you are. They love you and care for you. It is better to have one amazing best friend then dozens of friends who don't really care if you are in there lives one way or the other. Remember that.
You are still in high school, and you have already said things are getting a little better. And trust me, they will only get better from here. High school sucks, and the fact you have such a history there makes it that much worse. Just focus on your grades, your family, and the friends you do have. Those are the things that are important. Once you are out of high school you get to start all over. Focus on that. "Don't ever let anyone tell you high school is the best days of your life. High school is to be endured, college is the best days of your life." That is a loosely written quote from one of my favorite authors, Stephenie Meyer, and I just thought I would share that with you. It's 100 percent true.
As for your self esteem issues, don't let anyone ever tell you that you are less than beautiful. Be proud of who you are and the skin and body you were given. They were given to you for a reason. Focus on all of your favorite aspects of yourself, and screw the things you don't like. I have huge ears and I hate my eyebrows and teeth. I used to hate the way I looked, but now I am proud of myself and my looks. Work the things you don't like, and be proud of them. Anyone who says negative things about you are only trying to feel better about the negative things they have.
There is a solution. It's called time. Eventually you will gain self esteem, but you have to want it. You can't always focus on your hang ups. Be proud of yourself.
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