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losing efficiency
hi im from pakistan
im 18 years girl..
i was in relationship with a boy who was very mean nd insecure about me and tease me a lot . . he alwys black mail me emotionally thus driving me mad...
sumhow we brok up but i m facing lots of problems in my life after it so i need ur help !!!
my problems are :
1) major problems is that i have become lazy nd absent minded
2)i feel like dumbest girl in world
3) i m losing my beauty ,wit, senses nd efficiency
4)i respond to others late bcoz my mind take lot ov time to think an answer
i hv lots of goals nd i need to study nd socialize bt i cant there is no wayi ll call him back so i need ur advice to become better
plz i need long and sincere answers
THANKS IN ADVANCE
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sweetie. first off, you cant stay hung up on someone who has only hurt you. no one on the face of this earth has the right totreat you that way. second you said you are losing your beauty. beauty on the inside can never be lost. neither can beauty on the outside. you are not the dumbest grl in the wrld. you were smart enough to come and ask for help instead of sitting around in pain. you r very smart. alot of grls wouldnt do what you r doing. try to sleep well. maybe that is why your thinking sort of slow.dont stay up at night wishing you could change him. just move on and love yourself. you want to find a man who luvs you for you not your pain.
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To sum it up, you need to forget the boy you were dating and move on. Your mind is still thinking you need him when you really don't. There are many guys out there and I'm sure you'll find someone soon. If the guy was mean to you and black-mailed you, why would you let him get to you? You deserve better and once you think that way, the sooner everything will turn around.
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i've been in a similiar situation :/ men who abuse woman deserve to go to hell, its so wrong. he wasnt right for you, or anyone i suppose. i bet you're a beautiful intelligent girl, every girl deserves a man who will treat her right and with respect. not pain and putting her down all the time.
you need to erase this guy from your life immediately. he wants to see you lost and upset and be a mess. thats what he was basically there for... sorry to say.
you need to search for a man who will treat you right, and you should do that soon. having a boyfriend is very uprising and makes you feel wonderful. you deserve that NOW.
i sat there in disbelief for too long after i broke up with the guy who abused me. i moved on and i found an amazing boyfriend that ive had for a year now <3
you have now learned what you need to walk away from, sometimes when a boyfriend who makes you insecure and teases you alot maybe once or twice is fine. more then once or twice is not okay. you deserve to be happy my love, you deserve to feel beautiful. i guarantee you are :)
move on with life, if you see him dont even make eye contact with him, he doesnt deserve to to acknowledged. if he continues to blackmail you or threaten you, tell a trusted adult or the police, if hes over 18 he can get arrested and fined for abuse.
good luck <3 keep me updated!
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Heeeeyy :) ok heres my advice..the only way you can be able to socialise and go back to the way you use to be is by letting him go. by moving on and believing hes in you past. right now you still think about him, maybe soemtimesa you miss him and stay up nights thinking about hima nd how he hurt you. you need to stop and stop feeling sorry for yourself. he wasb an ass yes, he hurt you yes, he abused you yes, he was a dumbass yes, ok now weve established that next step is to let it go and be strong about it. dont be scared of him. if he tries to black male you then dont answer him dont talk to him. if you see him on the street walk the other way and just erase him from your mind. once youve done this then youll be happy resulting in a life in your self esteeem resulting in feeling better about yourself and when you look in the mirror youll see a beautiful girl that was better than that ass, better than him because you didnt sink down to his level and was mature about everything. i mean at the end of the day look at the bright side. atleast your still not with him trying to get away from him, being abused by him, anythings better than that right?
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