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Giving Space.
My Boyfriend and I have been together for 4yrs, An have lived together for the past year and a half. We got into an argument about money problems the other night because we have recently moved out of the apartment we had into his parents to stay there until we got enough money to fix up his house he will be getting from his Grandpas death. We have had an argument that escalated into a pushing screaming match and the next day he told me he needed space, so i packed my things and left. Well ive went there later that night to try an work things out he screamed at me again said give him space and I left, then on sunday yesterday I went over there to bring him some of his things and he said he just needed time to think an space an he would call me when he is ready to talk. So? How do I cope with this, an his friends constantly text me to, what is space? An if he should be missing me an wanting me, how should I treat his friends when they talk to me an ask me questions about our relationship an what im doing, because I believe and know they go back an tell him things thinking I just don't know what they are doing? I need advice so anyone willing to give some id greatly appreciate it!
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I think in this case He might need time alone maybe his family loss might be a reason he sees not being with you. He might use that as an excuse to release you from his life, regardless you keep yourself together and give him the space even if it hurts just let him breath and you go on with out him..im not saying replace him just continue on living if hes yours he'll come back looking for you and appologize but when he does ask him to explain everything you don not want him to be returing to you because there was someone else. hope this helps
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When guys get pushed to the edge, they really do just need to be left alone. Its never a good idea to get up in their face when they're angry, and if you push him too far, you will push yourself right at the door. Give him his space, I know it sucks to sit there and not know whats going on, believe me. But, give him his space..when he calls you to talk-actually TALK to each other. Both of you listen to each other's point of view. To diffuse a particularly touchy situation, don't use the word "you" a lot. Don't be all on the blaming factor. Say things like "I feel" or "I think"..that way he doesn't retaliate with the blaming. Best of luck to you and your man.
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