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The Evil Sister-in-Law
My brothers wife, well hates me. She gets along perfectly fine with every other female in my family except ME. I have never done anything wrong to this girl and she is SO snobby to me! Her attitude stinks, she is friendly with everyone else in the family but when her and I are around eachother she always gives me "back handed compliments." Meaning, she'll say something that starts out nice, but ends up mean. Like "Oh I LOVE you're shirt! Even if it made out of obviously cheap material." Yes, thats an ACTUAL quote. She went to HS with my husband and he told me that she was always very snobby there too. I just can't figure out why she hates me so much! Out of respect for my brother, I just roll with the punches. I wouldn't want him being mean to my husband. It's like this girl is cruel to me for no good reason! Sometimes I swear she sits around and comes up with things to say when she sees me out. Maybe if I knew what her problem is, I could somehow stop all this BS.
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some women are vile nitpicking bitches, I'm sorry to say it, but the why wouldn't even matter. two options: let her continue to be a bitch, and wait for the opportunity, when she needs your help, to tell her to shove it. or, and this would be my method, don't be around her. as wise people say "would you rather be right, or live in peace?" the quote doesn't exactly fit, but the sentiment's there. why be around this harpy?
if you stop hanging around, and tell your brother why, he might get pissed off enough to tell her what for.
of course, there's always taking her out behind the barn and beating her like the mule she is, but thats supposedly not kosher anymore.
-Gunner
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She clearly has a problem- she resents you out of nothing other than jealousy. For whatever reason, she tries to insult you, because she is trying to make herself feel better in some deluded way. She could be jealous of your relationship with your brother- she might want him all to herself, and anyone (short of a mother) who gets in the way is subject to her crude behavior.
I hope you realize that her comments have nothing to do with you. She resents you because you are an important woman in her husband's life- and because of her insecurity, she wants to be the ONLY woman in his life. Since she cannot possibly say that to you, or show you how she really feels, she uses these rude remarks as a way of letting out some of her jealousy. She might even be using these remarks as a way of getting you to be so fed up that you might not want to see her and your brother very often- she might be trying to drive you away; that is a possibility.
If you bring this up to your brother, he might shrug if off, but then again, even he admitted that she was a snob in high school; some things never change. You will have to calmly, but firmly, explain her behavior to him. Suggest that he VERY casually bring you up in some way, like complementing you to his wife, or saying something positive- if she sees how highly he thinks of you, she MIGHT feel guilty about saying things to you, and eventually stop doing it so much. But, that might not be the only answer. You might just have to continue going along with it, for your brother's sake. If it gets to the boiling point, you should definitely bring it up to your brother--if anything, just to bring the issue to his attention.
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