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My step dad annoys the crap out of me! Help!
OK, so Ive been looking for a website like this,and Im so glad I finally found it.
Anyway,so I have self esteem issues.
And I have a step dad who's making it worse and doesnt realize.
He thinks I cant do anything wrong,and that Im some kinda "geek" and a "wannabe".
I want to prove him wrong,but I dont know what to change. I mean,I dont want to try to be all "cautious and perfect" around him,but how can I NOT be a geek and flip out so easy.
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Don't change yourself in any way. You are who you are and thats what makes you special. You have to tell him straight up, "dad your really bringing my esteem down". I would recomend sitting him down and making sure he knows that you are serious. You don't have to prove to him that you aren't a geek, just be who you are.
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Your step dad isn't a person that you should have to change for. He seems like he's the one who needs to make a change. Your family should accept you the way you are. Your step father should not be judging you in that way.
I think you should talk to him. If he thinks your dramatic don't talk to him during an outburst. Tell him how you feel, that some things are hard for you and you wish he would just support you. Maybe he really doesn't feel the way you think he does. If he has a bad attitude about it, speak with your mom.
If you can't change the way he speaks to you, then learn to ignore disparaging comments. If he can't be a mature parent figure and learn to encourage you with his words then he obviously isn't a role model or anyone to say things that make you feel bad. It sounds funny, but the only one who can hurt you is YOU. You decide if what people say and or do are hurtful. You decide if they're worth your time. So talk to your step dad and decide if it's really worth it to change for him.
Good luck,
-Abby
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