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Friend Drama
16/f Brace yourself... it's long :/
Alright so in the beginning of last year, i was sort of friends with this girl named Julie. Julie was not my favorite person, because she was constantly grouchy and was not ever in a good mood and didn't ever have anything positive or nice to say... ever.
Now, the reason we even started talking is because of this girl named Alyssa, who is one of my very best friends. Alyssa is the only reason that me and Julie even made contact. Alyssa and Julie became friends freshman year of high school, and we are now juniors. Sophomore year is the year that I met these two people, along with some others that we hang out with. So Julie and Alyssa were already friends when i first met them.
As sophomore year progressed, i noticed that Julie kept treating me different then everyone else. She would never let me talk, and gave me dirty looks every time i tried to say something, she would make comments whenever i would get everyone to laugh such as "You're so immature." or "No one thinks you're funny."
And that may sound like she was just kidding around, but after she kept saying it over and over again i knew she wasn't. It was the little comments that drove me nuts, whenever i said something that was on my mind she would say, "Jesus, you are such a freak." or "You are so f***** weird."
And again, i thought she was kidding but as time grew, i knew she was not.
One time when we were eating lunch, she got me to cry, and that was where i drew the line.
Meanwhile while all of this was happening, i became really close with Alyssa and we turned out to be best friends. She felt the same way, that Julie was treating me different and acting like a bitch to only me. Julie had also been treating Alyssa like crap too, for what ever reason. They get into fights a lot, and they never make up.... they just choose to ignore it to prevent getting into further arguments.
So both me and Julie knew there was tension, but never said anything about it.
Summer time: This summer, me and my other best friend Ashley went to Ireland for a month. The night i came back, i turn on my phone to see a text from Julie saying "I hope you don't come home thinking anyone missed you, because we didn't. For all i care, you can stay there for the whole god damn rest of your life."
I didn't reply. It actually made me laugh, and I’ m the immature one?
Then a few weeks later, Julie and Alyssa get into a huge blown up fight about their friendship and how Julie treats Alyssa. Alyssa was very upset by this, so since she always talks to me about her problems, she told me everything. Julie was now going out of her way to hurt Alyssa, and Alyssa got to the point where she resulted to hurting herself. She started cutting herself for about two weeks, because Julie told her all of this stuff that made her confidence level drop. She became anorexic because Julie made a comment about her weight and her “fat ass”.
I got sick of hearing Alyssa sound depressed all the time, and stood up for her. I was not rude to Julia, i simply told her to back off Alyssa because Alyssa was to the point where she was hurting herself and her body. I know it wasn't my fight, but i felt i had to in order to help and protect Alyssa.
Julia replies with:
Considering that me and Alyssa are in a fight I’m just gonna say that i never liked you, and this is none of your business. I just put up with you because my "Best friend" was friends with you. Considering that me and Alyssa are done now, there is no reason i have to put up with you any more. BYEEEEE!
Not only was i pissed she didn't even acknowledge my message, but if she "put up" with me then she wouldn't have invited me places with her. In the beginning of the year, we were actually friends. It went downhill from there.
So the next morning i wake up to see that she sent me yet another text:
Hey, sorry about last night. That was my drunk brother who needed to borrow my phone, ugh i hate brothers lol.
She said the same to Alyssa, because she had said some nasty things to Alyssa the night she "told me off". But she sounded exactly like herself, so i did not believe a word of this "drunk" brother shit.
So i ignored her for the rest of the summer, some person wrote in my honesty box on facebook "My best friend Julie wants to know why you stopped talking to her. :("
And that was obviously her, why would she care if she has been treating me like shit?
So at my friend Ryans party, she tries to talk to me and i sort of responded to all of her questions distantly.
Then, a few days before school started, i decided i better work some stuff out with her so that the first day wont be awkward. I text her telling her why i was upset with her. She responds with
I don’t give a shit about you, i never liked you and you can choose to believe that it was my brother or not i really don't care. I just put up with you because unfortunately, we share the same best friend. It was nice talking to you!
So we haven't spoken since, and things are really awkward in school because we have the same friends even though we're nothing alike. She treats our friends like shit too.
One girl even picked her side and flipped out on me today at lunch claiming "How would you like it if someone stole your friend?"
So i just want to know if you guys think i did the right thing, or did anything wrong.
Maybe she's mad cuz i "stole" her best friend from her who clearly would prefer to be friends with me. (She even told me she's glad she is friends with me because she can be herself in front of me, and with Julie she feels trapped and fake)
Julie makes nasty comments, and snaps at anyone who isn’t just like her and doesn’t worship the ground she walks on. Julie loves talking about herself, and how awesome she is, and everyone is sick of it. I havent spoken to her in two weeks.
So... what do you think?
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Hmm... I see. Well, I must say that this 'Julie' has some problems. Honestly, you should completely forget her existence. You and Alyssa both forget her. She obviously is just making fun of you both because she's either jealous and wants to make herself feel better or she's been raised that way. It's usually one of the two. Just don't ever stoop to her level by returning any snappy comebacks. Some people may dislike you for it, but they will eventually see how this Julie is merely all talk.
I don't have a phone, so I don't know if there's a special block you can put on someone's number, but if you can do this, DO IT. It'll help the forgetting process. If she tries to speak with you, ignore her. I hope this helped you out and I do hope things turn out for the better.
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You did the right thing this girl is a total brat and doesnt deserve friends i cant even believe people actually hang out with her because i wouldnt shes a bitch but anyways you did nothing wrong people like her need to be taught a lesson and you standing up to her and not taking crap from her is showing you the bigger person because you dont care what she says and as for her she will always be mean and when she gets what she deserves shes going to realize what she did was wrong so give it time she will learn her lesson and then you can be there to tell her she shouldnt have been so mean in the first place :)
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