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two friends vs. big promotion!
(21/F) I work for a big company and in my department we all have become good friends, and recently an executive position opened up. My two friends went for it (one of them being a very good friend of mine who I have known for years) and now the higher executives are in the final decision process. They have both been with the company a few years and are good people, but honestly my good friend deserves it more and has more experience and dedication. Alot of my co-workers and I have heard it will be my friend since in our company, word gets around fast and secrets never stay secret. The problem is, I want to throw my friend a congratulatory party (if she does get the promotion) but I'm afraid of how my other friend will feel. My two friends have been completely civil towards one another, saying there won't be hard feelings afterwards, etc. How do I go about this? Should I not throw a party? Though my good friend has been desperately trying to get a promotion unsuccessfully for awhile! I know it'll make her feel good. What should I do?
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You should ask the friend who gets the promotion, if and when she does, if she would like a congratulatory party.
She'll be aware of the importance of her new position, and of the feelings it brings up in others and the politics of the office. Express to her your willingness to arrange a party in celebration, but leave it up to her as to whether she wants one or not. Perhaps just a cake during lunch break is as much recognition as she will feel is appropriate.
If the party get nixed (admittedly, I don't think it's a great idea...) taking her out for a nice dinner, or maybe getting her a gift certificate for a little spa treatment, could be better, more private ways for you to express your good wishes to her.
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