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is he lying about being a virgin?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 9 months. im 16 female and hes a 17 male.well i know he has told some people he isnt a virgin. because someone told me that he said that and ive heard him before, but i dont think he knows ive heard he says that. well you know how some guys will say stuff like that just to look cool. well i asked him if he was a virgin or not and to put it on everything to be honest please. and he said he puts it on everything that he is still a virgin. ive asked him this question twice already and both times he says he is one. he doesnt change the conversation or anything. but like once he was mocking me like messing around and said "im not a virgin" and i let it go then a little bit later i asked him again. that was the 2nd time i asked him, and he answered with no he is still a virgin. and like every now and then hell make little jokes and say something like.. "close your virgin eyes" or something. do you guys think hes just messing around with me, or do you think he really isnt a virgin. please help me. and if he isnt a virgin any ways i can get over the fact he isnt one and i still am one? thankyou in advance. please be completely honest and thankyou for taking the time to read all of this
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I wouldn't trust this guy...it's hard to tell just by you describing it, but I don't understand why he keeps changing his mind when he's with you (around his friends makes sense). The best thing to do is to ask him again, tell him it doesn't matter but he needs to tell you the truth. If I had to guess, I'd say he is a virgin and embarassed about it but there's really no way to tell for sure.
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ohh guys are like that. they always say theyr not virgins just to act cool because its the "in" these days..i mean if hes been with you for such a long time and hasnt had sex with you yet, i think thats the most rea; proof anyone can have. he is a virgin and i think if you keep asking him he might think you want him to say hes not, it could start an arguement. just trust him. if hes never lied to you then i doubt hed lie to you about this. you say that it doesn matter if he is or isnt a virgin then you should accept his answer and not over think it. you just like me i over analyse wayy to much into things.just see it as it is.
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Does your boyfriend lie about other things?
Really, either way, the fact that he lies to strangers about being a virgin is kind of not cool. Sure, you are right, people do that, but the fact that lots of other people pirate music doesn't make that cool either. It would be perfectly fair to ask him why he felt the need to lie about it in other situations and even (eep!) what exactly he HAS done, since there is a huge range of things people might do and still technically call themselves a virgin.
If I had to guess, I'd guess your boyfriend is a virgin.
If I were you, I'd choose to believe your boyfriend about him being a virgin. Because if you can't believe him, you are dating a liar. A liar who will lie about a big deal in your relationship.
Finally:
No one is a blank slate. It's a trap we fall into a lot as teens where we feel the need to be somebody’s 'first'. It's silly. No offence meant: But it is silly. I'm twenty-four and it would be unrealistic for me to expect that my new partner has never been in love before, or never had sex before. They probably have a few serious rommantic experiences behind them, and so do I. (Also, by my age, your 'frist' is often not the most serious or strongest memory anymore. Other, far more serious relationships, might have come along in your life.)
You need to learn to be okay with people who have different level of experience then you, and you need to be okay with realizing that everyone has a past, and that past needs to be part of what you adore, not something you pretend isn't there.
So how do you do that? There really aren’t any tricks. You learn to accept what you cannot change and focus on the positives. You learn to have confidence in your own choices and not to feel ashamed because your choices and life experiences haven’t given you exactly what your partner has. You'll never met another person who has the EXACT same life experience as you, not even the person you fall in love with.
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