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so im a freshman at a large university in a small town 3 hours from home. i only know 1 person down here so im trying to make friends but it seems like almost everybody ALREADY has friends. i guess it's the ones who rushed, they got that instant bond or whatever. anyway. im not really shy, i'll talk to anyone anytime, but i guess i always get uneasy about approaching someone or a group because i dont want to impose on the conversation. you know those people that, when you're with your friends, it's like they just butt in and no one wants them there? yeah, that's the person i don't want to be. so a couple nights ago i met this group of guys right outside my dorm, they go out there several times a day to chill and smoke and whatever. they yelled heyy and started talkin to me on my way back in so i went and talked to them. they said i was one of the few cool/nice ppl who actually stopped to talk. a couple of them got my number and we've texted once or twice, just small talk, and another one of them stopped me outside yesterday to talk and they've called me over once more when i was with my friends. they seem pretty cool to chill with, and one is really cute and i'd love to get to know him more. he's told me we should meet up at the bar and stuff sometime [they're like 5 feet from the dorms so that's where everyone goes]. anyway, there's been a couple times where they've been sittin outside and ill walk in/out of the dorm and they dont say anything. i see them they see me and i always look at them and smile to see if they'll say anything but they dont. should i just walk over? i dont wanna be annoying or like a gnat, and it seems like everytime i see them there's more and more people, mostly guys, so idk. i guess it's just awkward. what should i do here?
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Well if you see them standing in a group, dont be scared to walk to them. I would just walk up to them and sayy heeeyy. lol. If you stay out and dont bother them and never go up to them then you wont ever be real good friends with them and you wont be in the group. when i see a group of new people then i just walk up to them and start a conversation, i dont care what they think about me. Maybe they werent even talking about something important. so i would just suggest to go for it.
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If you really have an interest in getting to know them...it's up to you to take initiative. they did their fair share, so now approach them.
if they always stand in the same spot, go up to them and in a friendly way say "so, you like people watching?" they'll probably chuckle and that should get things started.
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