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Weird Child
I've been friends (frenemies) with this guy ever since freshman year. Everyone knows him as genius-but-gets-bad-grades-due-to-laziness-arrogant-but-nice-at-times guy. He tends to use hurtful sarcasm towards all my friends, but I seem to get the worst end of it. He sometimes hurts me verbally, ignores me, and tries to humiliate me. The guy always calls me "stupid" and thinks I'm the idiot (even if I do get better grades than him, but I have to admit- if he tried he could have been the valedictorian right now). I do assert myself and call him out on it, but he always continues. No one takes his dry sarcasm seriously, but his seems to hurt me a lot, and whenever I tell my friends, they tell me to ignore it (in fact, people find his hurtful sarcasm towards me somewhat funny), but I just can't. I get the feeling that he does have a crush on me, but that is refuted since he claims to be "in love" with one of my very goods friends (who he his extremely nice to). I don't know why is he the meanest to me, and although people say it is nothing big- why do I wish someone could stand up for me along with me? Just because everyone is taking things lightly, am I just too paranoid?
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Have you considered that he may have an intellectual disability or mental disorder that results in him being that nasty to people without thinking about it or remorse? It's very common actually and would explain how he can be nice one minute and vile the next.
It would also explain why nobody can talk to him about it or get through to him. He doesn't see a problem where everyone else is. If you want to be his friend you'll have to consider the reason and source behind the remarks he makes. Try telling him "That didn't sound right." every time he says something nasty and see what happens.
If you are getting the brunt of his vile remarks or treatment make yourself scarce when he's around. Be assertive and put him in his place tell him "that's no way to talk to or treat a friend." and take him to task but pick your battles carefully.
I think the problem is an unresolved disorder which he needs medication for. I'm no doctor but I've encountered this too many times where the answer was medical related.
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I wouldn't hang around him. Sarcasm is one thing. Relentless sarcasm can be caustic, especially if he knows how hurtful it is to you and brushes it off. The guy seems completely insensitive to your feelings and enamored with his wit. Tell him he needs a personality adjustment or a psychiatrist and leave him to his own devices.
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Well, Theres a few things.
. He could Like you but doesn't show it.
. He's just weird.
. Your paranoid.
Just talk to him and ACTUALLY ASK HIM.
it'll help.
Sorry if this isn't the best answer, But, I tried (:
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