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How to get the right attention from guys...my friends are stupid!!!
I know that looking good in public is important and that guys like good looking girls but my friends are getting on my nerves about it! They are so obsessed with having the "perfect" figure and make-up so that these "hot" boys will show interest in them. One of my friends finally told me that the rest of the group is upset with me because my boyfriend is "hot" and I didn't even have to "try" to get him. I did "try" though...I approached him at lunch after our science class and said, "Hey, I think you're neat. Would you happen to be free this weekend?" That was it! They're upset I didn't go to extremes like they did, I guess.
Yeah, I do my make-up and I dress nicely but I don't spend hours in the bathroom or need to "touch-up" multiple times at school. I don't do my make-up to look like a raccoon or a boxer with two black eyes. I do my (light) make-up in the morning for like 10 minutes and then go to school and be MYSELF. I don't spend a fortune on clothes because I know they're just not worth it. I don't flash my boobs or anything in front of boys to get their attention.
I tried to explain to them that the kind of attention they're getting isn't what they are REALLY after. I told them to just talk to boys and let it naturally flow but they're SOOOOO obsessed with appearance. All they're going to get is used and I keep telling them that! When they DO get used they seem so shocked. I'm so tired of them.
Should I just stop being friends with them and go my own way or what? They don't listen to what I tell them and they are so extreme. It's gotten to the point that I laugh when they have their hearts broken. Can this be fixed or are we just not compatible as friends?
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You sound like me, 5 years ago.
There comes a point in time in every relationship (be that romantic or friendship) and re-evaluate. Sure, you may have had a ton in common with these girls a year or two ago. Have you changed? Have they? Do you gain anything by being friends with them?
People sometimes grow in different directions. You've grown up; they've grown stupid. That can cause a rift.
It's not like you have to either be best friends or never talk to them again. Just try to remove yourself from the thick of it while seeking some friends with more common goals to yours. Try joining an extra-curricular activity.
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wow i wish i could just go up to a guy i liked and say that!you got gutts how can they say you dont try because you did, you scooped up your balls sucked it up and asked this guy out that takes alot! to be honest they sound jealous i dont know if youd want to be with jealous girls like that because that could get dangerous, they wouldnt try steal your boyfriend from you would they?its up to you?what good are they doing to you when theyr sticking around. are they there for you when you need them?are they being your friend?they should be happy for you that you found someone that makes you happy not be envious of it..i think you know what to do
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well if you really dont feel comfortable around them and you feel its unbareable to be with them then i suggest you go your own way and find a new group of friends but you should think about this because you might regret it so think it through is there really no way to get around this and still be friends or do you feel they can never change and you dont want waste your time? the decision is really yours all i can say is take your time thinking about the because this is a big decision. Good luck :)
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