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stop cutting.
15/f
ive been cutting myself for about two years. its not constant, in fact i stopped for about seix months, but lately ive kindof picked up where i left off and ive been cutting every few days now. i really really want to stop, but everytime i look it up online, i see things like "take a warm bath, go for a run, blahblahblah." and i really dont think that taking a bath or running is going to help me to stop cutting. i need ways on how to stop.
also, is there like an on-line couseling type of thing? where i could talk to a psychologist? i really dont want to tell my parents because they would be so dissappointed in me and wouldnt understand. but i just want someone professional to talk to. besides, i dont know if i could afford seeing a therapist.
please help me to stop cutting.
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I know how you feel, I have stopped cutting for about 4 months now, and I did relaspe once before, and my friends convinced me to tell my mom and she was there for me. I know you have probably heard this a billion times, but parents can surprise you. They may not completly understand, I honestly believe that unless you have cut you won't understand, but just try talking to them, explain to them why you have been cutting and what triggers it. Also if you told them you wouldn't have to pay for a psychologist, they would pay for you. Parents are there to help you.
Things that helped me when I had the urge to cut were calling a friend or hanging out with them, that usually took my mind off it. Your friends are there to help you too, they love you and will be there for you. You do have to remember that you won't fully stop until you are ready to stop for yourself. If there is another reason why you want to stop, try and figure that out and figure out how you can stop for yourself. I was deep into cutting and I know how it feels when you start up again after you've stopped. Have you gone onto To Write Love On Her Arms, it's a website dedicated to helping people who have cut. You should check it out, just to see all those people caring about you, it helped me a lot. Also listen to the song Hold On by Good Charlette. I hope I helped.
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look up on the internet for phone counslers, and know thi isntthe case but even if you call a suicide hotline professionals will talk to you, im not sure if your relgious bt also try God, try the bible. his love is amazing, i am an ex cutter myself and it is love that saved me
in my prayers,
miyuki rin<3
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I use to be a cutter. Trust me I think your parents would be more hurt if they found out on their own and then think that you can't talk to them. Cutting is not an addiction it is something that you think makes you feel better because its pain and it takes your mind off of everything you may be feeling. I know you said taking a warm bath and other stuff won't help but everytime you start feeling the urge to cut... do something you enjoy or hang out with someone you enjoy being with until you are able to deal with it yourself. you dont want ot be too independent because then you will rely on that. just think there is alot of other things out there that could make your life alot worse. I suggest you talk to your parents it could do you good. your 15 this is normal and the beginning of your life... these things will pass trust me.. you will look back and see how things are to bad.... your parents can help you see a phycolgist.... just remember the cuts leave scars and will be there for the rest of your life.!!!
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I really don't think there are legitimate professional psychologists that you can speak to online for free. I really don't think your parents would be as disappointed as you think. They'd be a lot more disappointed in you for not getting yourself help. You have to do what you have to do in order to stop cutting. If you need to seek therapy, that's what you need to do, no matter how your parents feel about it. As far as price goes, I'm sure your parents have insurance on you since you're 15 and living in their house. When I went to therapy, it was only $20 since I had insurance. It's definitely worth the twenty bucks if you think it will stop you from hurting yourself.
I started cutting myself when I was eleven, and I stopped when I was sixteen. For me, therapy isn't what helped. I just eventually realised that cutting was not helping me at all. I felt good for a minute afterwards, but then I felt stupid for doing it. It was just a long, addictive cycle.
People online are talking about doing something that preoccupies your mind so you can push away those urges. That doesn't mean necessarily taking a bath or running down the street. It could be anything that is of interest to you. Something creative is always good; reading, writing, drawing, painting, playing an instrument, sewing, or whatever else you enjoy to do. You could also pick up some after school sports or group activities that would occupy more of your time.
The bottomline is you're going to have to decide that you don't deserve what you're doing to your body. You're going to have to make a decision that what you're doing right now isn't working. It's not making you any happier. You're going to have to find the things that fit your personality that will help you get through it. Whether it's sports, arts, or wearing a rubberband around your wrist to flick yourself with when you get the urge. You have to find something that works for you because every person is an individual. It's your choice to stop, not anyone else's.
If you need to seek therapy for it, do that. You have to be strong, even if the people around you don't understand. This isn't about your family or friends; it's about you and the method that you're using to cope with stress and problems in your life.
The reality is, when you cut, the problems are still there. You might feel better for a few minutes, but those bad feelings always come back, don't they? Until you find healthy coping methods and get to the root of your problems, you're not going to get better.
And trust me, it sucks when you're older and have to take responsibility for having so many scars on your body. I mean, they're in an extremely obvious area. Try going for a job interview and shaking your potential employer's hand. It's not a good situation.
It's great that you want to quit. You are recognising that you have a problem, and you're wanting to work to fix that problem. It's not like you can't quit. You've quit for six months before, then just fallen back into the same old routine. If you go to therapy, they'll teach you different ways to cope when you start feeling that urge to cut. They'll also help you face the real problems that are making you want to do it in the first place. Take the risk of your parents getting disappointed. Talk to them about it. You'll be surprised at how understanding they will eventually be about it. If they don't understand at first, have your therapist talk to them about it. He/She will word it in a way that will make them understand the psychology behind it so they won't feel anger or disappointment in you.
Good luck
inbox me if you need more help,
Darby(:
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