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Cant get over this guy!
17/F (sorry this will be long)
Okay so i have a problem. I am basically in love with my best guy friend. He knows it bc i have told him before. I've liked him for bout a year now and i cant get over him. Cant explain how much i like him. The thing is when i told him he said it was obvious n i said well i dont want to make things weird n he said its never weird btw us dont worry. His friend and also my good friend told me hes not gonna tell me how he feels bc hes not that kind of a guy. Ok so one of his friends really really likes me n we r jus bein friends right now bc i cant get myself to like anyone else, its impossible. The amount that i like this kid is overwhelming. Me n the guy i like hang out allll the time and just last night i guess he was hitting on my friend. So i asked her n she said yeah he was but he was also drunk. Well today im texting him n hes like yeah shes really pretty but i dont think she would ever wanna hook up. N the truth is she wouldnt bc wi all my friends hes off limits bc they know how much he means to me. She doesnt like him like that anyways. I mean me n him talk bout how we feel bout other ppl all the time but for some reason this is killing me. Im to the point where i almost started crying. Pathetic right, i know. I absolutely hate how much i like him bc i have other guys that like me n they r good guys! I jus really really like him n need help! I have no where else to turn! please help me out. Nothin can hurt me anymore so dont hold back. Man i jus like him so much. Hes all i ever think about. Jeez please help me!
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i think its crucial for you to find out find out how HE feels. and not through anyone else, you have to ask him yourself and get him to open up. because if he doesnt have feelings for you, then you are spending all this time liking him when you could be going out with other guys that are genuinely interested in you. however, it seems to me like he has feelings for you, and doesnt know how to act on them. or maybe he hasnt realized that he likes you. why else would he want to hang out with you all the time? because he likes spending time with you, and just might have feelings for you that he doesnt want to face. maybe hes scared, scared of commitment, scared of opening up, or scared of how what will happen to your friendship if things go badly. but maybe, maybe he wont admit that he likes you because of his friend that you talked about that likes you alot. just like your friend would never go out with this guy because she knows how much he means to you, maybe he wont admit he has feelings for you because of his friend that really likes you. Its just like the situation with your friend knowing hes out of bounds because you like him only flipped. but its absolutely important that you find out how he feels about you. and if he doesnt realize he has feelings for you, and you move on to the other guy thats his friend he might end up realizing he does like you, and things could get a little nasty. but whatever you do, keep the feelings of the other guy that really really likes you in he back of your mind, because you could easily hurt him.
good luckkk! :)
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Hmmm, It seems like lots of us have gone through this, I know I have.
I think the only thing you can do is to be honest with him, and yourself.
I know you've already told him that you like him, but have you told him exactly what you think of him, i.e you seem to have a deep infactuation with him. Because I know it sound cheesy, but you will feel so much better once the tension has broken. (And trust me, it's far better breaking the tension by telling him, than doing something stupid that will ruin the relationship)
Goodluck.
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i understand where you are coming from. same thing happen to me. my crush for 9 years liked my TWIN SISTER!!!!!!!!! but to get over it, i just stop talking to him. i did new things, joined clubs. made new friends. i focused on my least favorite trait about him, (pervert) and that made me disguted by him.Make an exciting change to make yourself feel sexy. Treat your self to a hair-cut, or a new outfit. Make yourself feel confident
Find someone else. It can be difficult to get over someone if you're sitting there alone on Friday nights. Instead, call up that girl/guy you have History class with who always smiles at you.
Live life. You're a great person and he/she was a fool not to see that. Before you know it you'll be back on track.
Get it out. A good cry always helps. just let your feelings pour out and before you know it. He/She will be just a thing of the past. honestly,
you shouldn't get angry or blame things on them if he doesnt like you back. he cannot control his feelings. Your friendship should be strong enough to not let something like that keep a good thing down.
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