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me and my ex boyfriend...
myself and my boyfriend broke up 3 weeks ago. we had a great relationship for the 8 months we wore a couple,and he left me for his ex cause his ex would not let him see his son who is 4.she cheated on him 9 months ago an they broke up now her boyfriend dumps her an she wanted my fella back he alwayes said no but then she used the child saying if you love your son you will take me back 4him. any way she guilted him an he took her back.but he told me he loves me and is doing it for his son.. but he rings me every day and we meet up as often as we can..when she is not around. or if he can get away.we do NOT have sex or anything like that we talk an kiss an cuddle an he takes me places like for dinner or cinema its like were a couple but wore not he is with her.he says he in love with me an that he loves her like the mother of his child. and he feels the love he has for her is not enough. but he feels he has to give it a chance with her.I keep telling him he is not giving anything a chance if he is seen me two. but he doze not wana stop seen me.when we are alone in his house I alwayes say would you not be worried about her coming home and he says he doz not care about that but if she findes out he wont see his son again..I dont no what is goin on? he is not using me for sex as we dont have sex so its not that but I would like to hear from men on this one two. what is goin on why is he keeping me around?? why doz he call every day and wana see me as much as he can? I believe he loves me but is there more to it?? please help!!!!!
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its simple he's in love with you and doesnt want to be with the childs mother.
Tell the man to sue the mother for custody and if all else fails tell him that he needs to stand up to the mom, if she wants her kid to have a reletionship with the father then she needs to get over herself and he needs to tell her that she shoud've have cheated on him and that's her loss and just sue him
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I believe he loves you too dear, but he is being manipulated and well, sorry he put himself in this position. Yes she is using his son to control him, but he is the father of that boy. Wish that we all had childen with people who would not then use those childen to manipulate us. But this has been going on for many many generations. Is he telling the truth to you when he says he loves you and not her? Sure. But they are a family or what passes as a family today, and to that little boy, it is all he has. And of course she has him where she wants him and don't be surprised when you find out that...gee, they are having another baby???? Count on it! And of course he didn't mean it, and he loves you, but he is only human. There will come a time when that little family of his will be torn apart and the child(ren) will suffer.....Don't let yourself be part of it. You won't like yourself for it. We all make choices in our lives. Good ones and bad ones. We can learn from them. But why should a small child, who didn't ask to be born, have to learn from someone else's mistake.
Bottom line.....those two have a bond that will NEVER go away. This child, this boy. No matter that he comes to the realization that she is only manipulating him and he cuts all ties with her and finds someone who is more honest and sincere like yourself....a lot of heartache and pain is going to come down on everyone involved before that happens. Do you want to be a part of that? You may win, but you won't like yourself for it.
He made a mistake in his past by getting this girl, who he does not love, pregnant. He has to pay for that mistake. You don't have to. I know that you are young and all things seem possible, but believe me, this is an impossible dream. Find someone who does not have any baggage. You'll be much happier in the long run. He is NOT the only person that you will ever have these kinds of feelings for.
- Michele
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