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Trying to not be so clingy
I'm getting close to having a new boyfriend after 2 years of being single. With my past boyfriends, the relationship has been very clingy and we spent way too much time together which eventually led to the break ups. I don't know if it was my fault or theirs, but I'm looking for some advice.
I know there aren't specific answers, I just want to hear from your experiences so I can get a good idea of how to go about this.
Appx. how often should you hang out with a boyfriend or girlfriend? Is it necessary to text or call everyday? Is it acceptable for me to hang out one-on-one with my best guy friend while having a boyfriend or vice versa?
Thanks for your advice.
(17/ Female)
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It really depends on the people in the relationship and their outside activities.. like my boyfriend and I hardly see eachother, because he has football practice everyday and gets home really late, and I'm out with my friends and such. So, I have the opposite of clingy haha, you just have to find a clear middle. Like you both have to make time for eachother, usually in the beginning you'll either talk more on the phone or hang out more in person. wither way in the beginning it's more intense and not clingy but just like, really wanting to be around eachother. It's how it SHOULD be in the beginning.
Okay so, to answer your questions, first, there's no estimated time that you should hang out with your boyfriend or girlfriend. you should hang out with them whenever you feel like it.. and if that happens to be everyday or every other day or once a week and etc. then so be it. It's whatever you feel is comfrtable, and if it starts to get "clingy" or "obsessive" you'll know because you'll start to get on eachothers nerves and it won't be "fun" anymore, it'll feel more like a habit then anything else, and that's when you should put some space between you two. like take a break but keep talking to him on the phone and on text :] and for hanging out with your best guy friend and vice versa alone, totally acceptable and normal. as long as no cheating is involved, you both are good to go :]
good luck, hope i helped and don't over analyze the relationship, just have fun and do what feels right :] ! have fun and if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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hey there =)
okay well its not always just down to one person,and it being their fault for not working out always remember relationships are a two way thing so don't ever blame just you for something not working or going wrong.
anyway,
what i always say is its all about finding a balance,not spending every single day with each other and neglecting your friends family even yourself and other priorites,but not neglecting your bf for theese either.
it really depends on you both as people and how busy you are but usually when im with someone id see them for a while some days after school work college for a few hours,but mostly hang and do stuff together on the weekends.
its the summer now so things are different and usually bfs and gfs spend alot more time together.
dont worry youl start to notice if you or he needs some space.
dont constantly call keep it to just texting its ok to text everyday just in time periods like take a break if you get me?
and dont get paronied if he doesnt text back etc he could be busy..that causes problems if your texting him being like omg why arent your replying..you know?
just relax and go with the flow and dont read too much into things and you two should be fine and clinginess will be avoided =]
and i would say its perfectly fine to hang with your best guy friend as long as your bf knows thats all you are and understands and respects that because theres nothing wrong with it
anyway i hope I helped in any way good luck
Much <3
Jess
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