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a girl who is more than a friend and confused on what to do
This girl and i have known each other for 6 months. She says she dosent like me but still wants to go on dates and says if she liked me she would love to be my girlfriend. She and i planned a date for next week. then an hour later she said she was busy actually. isaid its okay and we would try for another time. She then said nevermind i will just cancel my plans. i told her not to but she did. Then i found out the plans were to hang out with a guy. i told her to just go along with her orginal plans but she inisted that we go on our date. I agreed that we would just go on our date. a little later she text me saying the guy says they really need to hang out and says she cant cancel so she cancels our date. i tell her its okay and i told her to have fun, and she says i will hope u do too. so i said i would by taking some other girl on a date that night. then her other guy friend takes her phone and starts texting me and she lets him be rude and cuss me out and condones his actions. What should i do with our friendship? Is she still worth liking?
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i think you should think about wether or not shes worth it. it semmes to me that shes just using you. can she relly be your friend is shes letting him say all that stuff ? :) xx
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I think that you should move on this girl seems to be using you for your ATTENTION, and if a friend lets someone say mean stuff to you is she really a friend ?
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Maybe she did try to stop his rudeness but he didn't care. or maybe she was mad at you for taking another girl out. now i know she did the exact same thing but that rule for some reason doesn't apply to us girls. give her another chance, if she does it again then you should break it off. but first explain to her that you don't like that guy to be rude to you like that and that when you have plans she shouldn't make plans with someone else later on.
please tell me what happens and good luck.
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Wow, look at you. You found a crazy one!
She's already said she doesn't really like you the same way. She allowed someone to disrespect you. She played the "your date is less important than my date with this guy but if he cancels on me I'll go with you anyway" card. Those are the facts...
My advice is to drop her like a crack habit. She doesn't respect you, obviously, and she doesn't sound worth trying to salvage a relationship or friendship from.
Your friends and your girlfriends should treat you like a human, not a backup plan or a toy.
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One: If you actually said "That's okay your busy, I'll invite another girl out on a date." Then you were the one who started the rudeness. Of course it is all right to ask someone out else to join you, but it was not a nice thing to say, and if you said it to her the way you said it in this question, that was downright mean. I think it should be very clear that any girl would feel slighted by the idea that she can be so easily replaced by another.
Two: Only you can decide if she is worth liking, or being friends with. Perhaps before you make up your mind you might give her a chance to explain her side of the story by asking her about it in an open and non-confrontational way. It is not right to expect her to end a friendship, or disapprove of someone just because you do, but if she does like you she probably does feel bad about her part in allowing it.
Whatever you decide about this girl, try to be a bit more courteous. You are more likely to get treated with respect that way.
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