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I told a friend what was said behind her back..
Hey guys! 18/F
I have a group of friends that normally hangs out together, but lately everyone has been separated. Rachel and Sarah have a problem with Danielle and Jessica, and it is apparent. Now, I am close with both "groups", but I am definitely closer to Jessica and Danielle. Today, while I was hanging out with Rachel and Sarah, they said a few things about Jessica and Danielle. Later that night, Jessica called me and I told her a few things that they said. I did not exaggerate anything at all, but Sarah called me upset that I told them and that she expected that I wasn't going to say anything. There's nothing I can do because obviously I can't take anything back (like I wish I could). How do I make this right? I already sent a message to Rachel because I haven't talked to her easily (she's asleep). I said my apologies (I am sincere about them) but I know they will hold a grudge over me and I know I lost their trust. Is there anything I can do to fix it?
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if i were you i would bring them all together and tell them how much you love them all. I mean rachel and sara would want to know if something was said about them, and jessica and danielle would feel the same. I would just say that your not going to choose between the two groups. Maybe after you say that they will stop talking about eachother, to make sure you dont say anything to the other group.
Hope i helped!!!
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I don't think you did anything wrong. Just because they're fighting doesn't mean it gives Sarah and Rachel the right to talk shit about Jessica and Danielle behind their backs.
You were just passing something along that they deserve to know. If Sarah and Rachel weren't so skeezy and fake, they wouldn't have this problem. Fixing something doesn't happen when you can't tell someone what's up to their face. You didn't make anything worse, they did. I wouldn't worry. If they get mad at you for it, that's their problem not yours. You can't help that they're not direct.
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It's not your job to play peacemaker. I had two of my good friends in a bad situation where one had wronged the other. Rather than being the middleman and doing the communication for them, it's best to just stay out of it all. I invited both of them to all events and showed them I was not going to pick and choose who I invite. If they had a problem with that, they could figure it out amongst themselves. My point is, drama is drama, and it tends to work itself out. Don't play favorites, show you're not going to be rocked by it, and just ride it through. If they are your friends, they're reconcile.
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Everyone makes mistakes and has a slip-up. Honestly, the best you can do is apologize and hope they accept it. They will be mad at first, yes, but if they are true friends, they'll get over it and forgive you. Just tell them about how sorry you are, own up to what exactly you said, and be a big person. For future references, don't try and become the middleman. The peacemaker hardly wins; they will just both reference you as a 'source' and pull you deeper into their problems, and you don't want that. Let them deal with this on their own. Stay friends and don't pick sides, and don't show favoritism as well. Invite them both out, and if they can't be a big person and deal with the others, then their loss.
I have been in the same situation. Not worth it to get involved. Trust me.
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