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Im a confused guy
So Im really confused theres this girl who to me is the most amazing girl ever. Ive known her for a lil over a year now and we are "together" but not dating. We kiss but not in front of anybody and she never texts me I always text her. and when she texts me back sually its a shorter answer and takes a long time to get to me. Shes a really busy girl and is always with her best friend doing important things. She said she doesnt have time for a relationship but says she likes me. I don't wanna give up on this girl but shes killing my heart. and (not to be rude to my girl but Im blessed with the looks in the relationship) Any advice on how to make her like me more or why she acts like this?
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First off, here's how to tell if a girl likes you:
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Here's what girls like in a guy:
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From there:
It really varies from girl to girl. Everybody has different preferences and turn ons and turn offs.
Some girls like athletes, some girls like boys in drama. Some girls like funny, outgoing and social guys, some like quiet shy bookworm guys.
Personality wise, here are my top 5:
1. A good sense of humor.
- A good sense of humor is always beneficial. And not a stupid "that's what she said!" sense of humor, somebody who can genuinely make an original joke. Making a girl laugh is one of the best things you can do in an effort to "win her heart".
2. Intelligence.
-Being smart is good, too. Us girls don't want to talk to somebody who can't count higher than 10, or who doesn't understand what's happening in the world. You don't have to be a total know it all, just smart enough to hold a decent conversation.
3. Nice guys.
- Nice guys DON'T finish last. If you compliment a girl, chances are she won't forget it any time soon. However, if you're mean to a girl, she'll remember for A LOT longer.
4. A good appearance.
- I'm not going to lie and don't think I'm shallow, but looks are all you have to go on for the first few minutes of knowing somebody. So if you're shirts half untucked, your shoes are untied, and your hair is unbrushed and a mess, chances are girls won't be into it.
5. Showing interest/having similar interests.
- I cannot tell you how attractive it is when I'm talking to a guy and he asks my favorite band, and the replies with, "I love The Rocket Summer, too!" Ask questions, and tell her when you like something she likes. If you have a lot in common, your relationship will go a lot farther than if you have nothing in common.
Those, however, are just the things I like but like I said, it's different for different girls. But a good sense of humor and giving a girl compliments are DEFINETE ins.
Now, as far as your question goes, I think she's doing 1 of 2 things:
1. She's serious: she has no TIME for a relationship.
- You said she's a busy girl, maybe she really HAS NO TIME for a guy right now. Even if she does like you and has no time for a relationship, it doesn't mean you have to give up on her. Trust me, sometimes waiting it out is the best thing you can do.
2. She's being nice: she doesn't WANT a relationship.
- This one is just what I said: she doesn't actually WANT a relationship. Now, to me it doesn't seem like this is the reason she's acting strange, but you didn't give a super lot of information.
I think you should talk to her and tell her to figure something out. Because letting her play games with you is NOT cool.
If you need any more help, my inbox is always open :)
-Laura (17-f)
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"I'm a confused guy"
Aren't we all?
Well, the most important thing is not to be pushy or clingy. If she wants a little space, give her a little space. If she says she's not ready for a relationship, you can wait and in the process get a little experience with other girls. If she's not ready, she's not ready.
Also, with the way you describe things and the language you use I'm assuming you're a teenager. If that's the case, you will almost definitely not marry her anyway.
My advice, give her a little room and see what happens. If you're too pushy it'll drive her away. Remember, there's always more fish in the sea!
I hope this helped you. :)
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