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Best friends
K so today is my best friends birthday but i cant go because i just got a job and after a week of oreintation im finally working today is the day i get trained which im excited for but my best friend is really pissed because im missing her 16th but its not my fault she didnt tell me 2 weeks ago she just told me a few days ago what she was doing and i tried calling her yesterday to tell her i cant come but she didnt answer so i sent her a msg on facebook and i told her i would call today but she sent me a msg saying "fuk you seriously you cant even call in sick or anything" so ya i dont know what to do should i talk to her again or no because she really hurt my feelings shes only thinking of herself.
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Christina below me is right.
If your friend was truly your friend, she would understand that she didn't give you enough notice when telling you about her party. You have work, and you have to go. Calling in sick is a solution, but it isn't really honest, and you shouldn't start off a new job by lying; it will only lead to more lies.
Talk to your friend in person and say you're sorry you can't come/couldn't come to her party, but it's your job, and you wouldn't expect her to call in sick just so she could come.
Maybe take her out to lunch or hang out with her later as a special birthday celebration between just you and her. Make her something nice, and maybe she'll forget how immature she's being, and forgive you for not going.
--Jack
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Your friend is being really selfish by asking you to call in sick on your first day of work. If she was really your best friend, she would understand the situation and would never ask that of you. She should've told you ahead of time, and not a few days ago.
If she's honestly being that childish about it, stop talking to her. She's selfish, and childish & isn't worth your time. Don't miss out on your job for someone who only cares about themselves. There's no need for you to lose your job because someone is that self-centered.
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If she's 16, chances are she's never had a job, and doesn't know that your first few weeks are sort of a probationary period, where your supervisor determines whether you are capable of learning the skills necessary to complete your tasks, if you are reliable enough to be depended on, and adaptive enough to handle whatever is thrown your way. If you call in sick your first day, you're starting off on the wrong foot, and will likely go nowhere, if you aren't straight up fired. When I was working in a theatre, the majority of the bottom-level employees were 16 year olds. You can imagine the kind of turnover we had. A single sign of unreliabilty in the first week or two warranted an immediate termination. With so many lazy kids, the majority of new employees didn't last a month.
tl, dr version: Your friend doesn't understand the shaky ground associated with a brand new job at a young age. Send a message explaining how you WOULD have, not could have been fired by calling in your first day. Give her time for that to sink in before you reestablish contact again.
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