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Okay so im fifteen and there is this girl thats 13 and she really likes me and i like her, but is 15 too old 2 b dating a 13 year old? well, were secretly going out with each other, nobody else knows cuz we dont want our parents knowing :] but we've been caught by both our parents hugging all the time but they dont seem to mind.. much :p her parents dont, mine does :S anyway were ALWAYS holding hands and hugging when were alone but when were in public we hold hands secretly, noone see's ;]i dont think she wants to kiss yet though. i always kiss her on the cheek, head and neck though and she loves it but im just wondering about this.. she went out with 2 of my other friends but they broke up for stupid reasons.. they wernt really that nice to her either.. like, the 12 year old (as tall as me) broke up with her for not seeing him in 2 days cuz she was inside sick, they were going out for 3 months at d time(he only gave her 1 hug within them 3 months).. then the 13 year old talked too dirty all the time so she broke up with him in d first week.. but neither of them gave her much hugs or held her hand or anything like that.. she told me that im the best bf she ever seen or had and she's always hugging me and when we have to leave each other she always lets me kiss her cheek if were alone, or if were in public she hugs me and whispers 'i love you' and 'i miss you already' after i say it first. she said that im so much better than the other 2 guys aswell... but there is a few things thats weiirrdd... we live right next to each other, so if either of us are out the backgarden we can see each other from our windows. but when ever she's at her window or im at mine she waves at first and smiles at me, but then she completely ignores me when i try to call her again.. i catch her sneaking a look at me every now and then though.. like if i call her loads she'll answer but if i call her like less than 5-10 times she'll ignore me.. but whenever i have to close my window i blow her a kiss and she would blow one back (most of d time), sometimes she just looks on the ground and ignores that i did it.. oh and my brother asked her would she kiss me (i didnt ask him to) and she said no.. but she kissed the other two guys when they asked her (i dont mind tho, im just wondering why), and she says she likes me more :P we've liked each other for 1-2 months now but were only going out for 5 days today, haha :P but she kissed the 13 year old on their 5th day ;O =P its not even that i want a kiss that bad its just.. you know what i meen :P
So
Q1. Is 15 too old to date a 13?
Q2. Do you know why she ignores me like that?
Q3. The kiss thing :P
Oh and one last thing.. when ever i have to leave her, even though we had a really good time, i still feel worried that i annoyed her or i didnt say goodbye properly or something... even though i probably did... i know these things are only SMALL problems but im just wondering :] thanks.
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I don't think 2 years is a big deal, I would only be worried about what her parents think. If they are cool with her dating an older guy then I guess it's okay.
She hasn't kissed you yet because she likes you, if she didn't then she wouldn't hold your hand. Don't pressure her to kiss you, she will make the move on her on, I mean you can provide her with the opportunity but allow her to make the move. Push her hair behind her ear and smile at her, if she wants to kiss you she will, she has her own reasons why she hasn't yet and you should respect that. She could just be trying in her own way to make this relationship a strong one, to build some strong foundation before you two start getting physically close.
She ignores you because she is a girl and we do odd things when we are that young. Just let her have space when she does that, don't try to poke and prod for attention, it could annoy her even.
When you say goodbye just hug her and kiss her on her forehead. It's polite, comforting, it's not an awkward thing, and it doesn't make it seem like you're desperate or trying too hard.
If you haven't officially asked her out yet, do it. Let her know that you two are dating and that you are dedicated to her (that could also be why she hasn't kissed you, she doesn't want to be friends with benefits).
I'd like to add that you two should just tell your parents. It will make you both more comfortable and will prevent anything from blowing up in your faces later. Because your both so young I think your relationship is pretty innocent and your parents will find it that way too, so if you tell them that your both dating they won't have any issues with you two hugging or you having your arm around her when you watch tv or something. Plus by telling them you don't have to be so secretive which will relieve a little stress on you both, and probably a lot of stress for her.
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Hey! I do not think 15 is too old to be dating a 13 year old. I know a lot about this kind of stuff because it goes on all around me. I am 15 as well. So anyways, thats only two years. She probably ignores you because she feels like you do not cal her enough. (Believe me you call her PLENTY! =D)you have to consider she is 13. Although that was two years ago, I grew up a lot ince then. At 13 I was like her! I always wanted to be on the phone, constantly. But now, it's different. So she probably gnores you because of that. Maybe you should talk to her, she should understand why you feel the way you do. And the kissing, you have let that come on its own (I know you don't have to, but I do not know what she would want). Like you said, you haven't been goin out very long, maybe you should wait a little bit longer and if nothing happens, maybe you should make the first move. Hope this helps you! (Oh and by the way, don't worry! I get all worked up over small stuff too so its totally ok! To me, it's the small stuff that matters!) Good Luck!
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Q1. if you like her for her not her body, then NO it's fine to be dating her but if your only dating her to get in her pants then YES it would be too old!
Q2. i think she ignores you because maybe she's not used to all the attention you seem to be giving her, as you said from all the other guys your different. So, maybe it's something you should ask her about, it's the only way to know for sure. But when you ask her don't come on as like mad about it, just be like " honey, i feel like your ignoring me..." and see what she says.
Q3. The kiss thing well it's kinda like Question2, i think since your different your way more special to her than those other guys so maybe its a lot more nerve-racking to her. just be patient! it will happen soon enough when the time is right. just accept her wishes if she isn't ready to kiss a special guy like you.
I hope i helped! And please, I'm 15 to i know what most guys want from girls and i know that it's a lot easier to manipulate a younger girl to do what you want... i just hope your not one of those guys. I wish the best for you two! and if you have anymore questions just ask.
- Andrea =D
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