I've been through a lot in my life, more then most but not nearly as much as others. I feel like I can offer people a lot of stress relief by telling them what I have learned through all of my problems to hopefully help them combat theirs.
I have dealt with watching my father die when I was only 6 years old, I know what it is to work sunrise to sunset (I live on a farm), I understand that the bonds between siblings can be the strongest things we ever feel.
I have gone through the battle on cancer with my mother; I have shaved her head, helped her pick out her wig, fed her food only to hold a bucket as she puked it up minutes later. I watched a human being slowly die and I have been to my mother's funeral all before I finished my senior year of high school, what was supposed to be the greatest year of my life.
I'm in college now and also understand how much that can change a person. It is with all the events that have happened in my life- all the love I have experienced and all the love I have lost that I believe I can offer advice to another person, even if it is only a little.
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im 14 years old. in grade 8, about to go into grade 9. i started going to a new school last year. and this guy was just starting too, we have been best friends for the whole year now. i really like him. i told him last year, but he didnt like me back. but now i feel he likes me, but i dont want to tell him again because im afraid he'll say the same thing as he did last time. what should i do? (link)
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just keep being you, if you guys keep getting closer and closer a relationship will just naturally happen
when it comes to relationships with your friends I find that go with the flow has been better- what happens will happen and if he decides all of a sudden he likes you then having previously been informed of your feelings he will ask you out
don't talk to him about it, it might come across as obsessive or too persistent and be awkward/make you feel foolish
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today i let my friend borrow my mascara.
later today she went home sick and has a sinus infection
could i get sick from letting her use my mascara? (link)
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what just ask me said
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does anyone know where i can get free diet pills? please give website. i dont really care what type they are. just nething free of shipping and handling as well. (link)
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you shouldn't put diet pills into your body if they are free, they probably aren't good from you
also I wouldn't trust the whole idea of getting free stuff online- to my that's like clicking the YOU JUST WON A FREE MAC thing, it's bullshit- don't be fooled
the closest thing to a diet pill like you are thinking is Alli, which you can buy at stores like Target- last time I checked I think it was $40 for the starter pack
if you really are more concerned with free your best bet is to not wait for some magic pill, to get up off your ass and run around the block a few times everyday
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Okay so im fifteen and there is this girl thats 13 and she really likes me and i like her, but is 15 too old 2 b dating a 13 year old? well, were secretly going out with each other, nobody else knows cuz we dont want our parents knowing :] but we've been caught by both our parents hugging all the time but they dont seem to mind.. much :p her parents dont, mine does :S anyway were ALWAYS holding hands and hugging when were alone but when were in public we hold hands secretly, noone see's ;]i dont think she wants to kiss yet though. i always kiss her on the cheek, head and neck though and she loves it but im just wondering about this.. she went out with 2 of my other friends but they broke up for stupid reasons.. they wernt really that nice to her either.. like, the 12 year old (as tall as me) broke up with her for not seeing him in 2 days cuz she was inside sick, they were going out for 3 months at d time(he only gave her 1 hug within them 3 months).. then the 13 year old talked too dirty all the time so she broke up with him in d first week.. but neither of them gave her much hugs or held her hand or anything like that.. she told me that im the best bf she ever seen or had and she's always hugging me and when we have to leave each other she always lets me kiss her cheek if were alone, or if were in public she hugs me and whispers 'i love you' and 'i miss you already' after i say it first. she said that im so much better than the other 2 guys aswell... but there is a few things thats weiirrdd... we live right next to each other, so if either of us are out the backgarden we can see each other from our windows. but when ever she's at her window or im at mine she waves at first and smiles at me, but then she completely ignores me when i try to call her again.. i catch her sneaking a look at me every now and then though.. like if i call her loads she'll answer but if i call her like less than 5-10 times she'll ignore me.. but whenever i have to close my window i blow her a kiss and she would blow one back (most of d time), sometimes she just looks on the ground and ignores that i did it.. oh and my brother asked her would she kiss me (i didnt ask him to) and she said no.. but she kissed the other two guys when they asked her (i dont mind tho, im just wondering why), and she says she likes me more :P we've liked each other for 1-2 months now but were only going out for 5 days today, haha :P but she kissed the 13 year old on their 5th day ;O =P its not even that i want a kiss that bad its just.. you know what i meen :P
So
Q1. Is 15 too old to date a 13?
Q2. Do you know why she ignores me like that?
Q3. The kiss thing :P
Oh and one last thing.. when ever i have to leave her, even though we had a really good time, i still feel worried that i annoyed her or i didnt say goodbye properly or something... even though i probably did... i know these things are only SMALL problems but im just wondering :] thanks. (link)
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I don't think 2 years is a big deal, I would only be worried about what her parents think. If they are cool with her dating an older guy then I guess it's okay.
She hasn't kissed you yet because she likes you, if she didn't then she wouldn't hold your hand. Don't pressure her to kiss you, she will make the move on her on, I mean you can provide her with the opportunity but allow her to make the move. Push her hair behind her ear and smile at her, if she wants to kiss you she will, she has her own reasons why she hasn't yet and you should respect that. She could just be trying in her own way to make this relationship a strong one, to build some strong foundation before you two start getting physically close.
She ignores you because she is a girl and we do odd things when we are that young. Just let her have space when she does that, don't try to poke and prod for attention, it could annoy her even.
When you say goodbye just hug her and kiss her on her forehead. It's polite, comforting, it's not an awkward thing, and it doesn't make it seem like you're desperate or trying too hard.
If you haven't officially asked her out yet, do it. Let her know that you two are dating and that you are dedicated to her (that could also be why she hasn't kissed you, she doesn't want to be friends with benefits).
I'd like to add that you two should just tell your parents. It will make you both more comfortable and will prevent anything from blowing up in your faces later. Because your both so young I think your relationship is pretty innocent and your parents will find it that way too, so if you tell them that your both dating they won't have any issues with you two hugging or you having your arm around her when you watch tv or something. Plus by telling them you don't have to be so secretive which will relieve a little stress on you both, and probably a lot of stress for her.
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18/F
I am starting college this fall, and I filled out my schedule today. I have thought seriously about majoring in English, so my advisor suggested an online class called "Survey of World Literature" Part 1 of 2. AKA: English 251.
I took English 111 & 112 in high school through the Dual Enrollment program, and those were the 2 prerequisites for the class. I received an A in both courses, so I was confident that I was going to do well. However after looking at some online course syllabus's I found, I am a little less sure. I didn't recognize any of the works shown on some of the professor's lists, So now I am freaking out.
I'm just looking for any sort of reassurance or tips for this class from anyone who has taken it. Or what was studied and what I can expect. I would just like to have a general idea of what will be studied and what I can expect.
Thank you! :) (link)
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Hey! You took the prerequisites and they are designed to prepare you for this class then. However, please keep in mind that this will be completely different in college- even though the high school considered those courses to be at a college level, they are not
the same thing happened to me when I got into college- I found that english courses were much more difficult, I actually had to work for an "A" in class
because it's a 200lvl course most students will probably be sophmores. I took 200lvl my freshman year and found that at first I thought I was going to fail, but by the end of the semester I had an "A".
take the class, you can always drop it with no penalties for the first few weeks of school. if you get there and decide it is just too hard then leave, otherwise stay
just keep in mind that I failed my first 3 essays in my 20th century literature class but after I started to understand what the professor was looking for in our papers I was passing with flying colors
good luck!
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i pierced my own belly button a few days ago with a really thick, steralized needle, and i took it out and immediately put a normal gaged ring in.. the ring was my friends from when she went to get her belly button pierced, and i steralized it..
please dont yell at me, i already know its bad to pierce your own belly button..
ive been putting peroxide on it, and triple anti bacterial ointment on it. mostly peroxide though, and ive been cleaning it a lot. the first two days it was like oozing yellow/ whitish stuff, and it dried up as crust.. but i kept cleaning it and it went away...
now it just hurts. It is SOOOOOOO SOAR. like litterally, i cant even sit up straight in my seat at school, i know its supposed to be soar for a few weeks, but i feel like mine is unbelieveably painfuler than all my friends..
also, it looks better but it looks like the skin around the hole is peeling a little bit.. is that normal?
i want to know if i am cleaning it out right, and is there anything i can do to ease some of this pain?? like, anything i can put on it?? i just basically dont know how to handle it.. so if someone could help me learn how to take care of it and what to do and not to do with it, thatd be great :) thanks...
oh also, my mom doesnt know, and she was gonna take me in december to get it done for my birthday.. but i REEEALLY wanted it for the summer.. so i was wondering.. if i take it out after summer in like september, will it close up for me to get it repierced by december?? tthanksss =) (link)
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saline solution should help, but if it starts oozing again then it's infected n u need to take it out and go to the doctor
you can leave it in, but won't it be odd in december when your mom takes you to get it pierced to discover it's already done?
you basically just set yourself up for a fight with your mom- she's going to see that she can't trust you and that your not patient/mature enough to just wait a few extra months for a piece of metal to be stuck through a part of your body
your lucky your mom said yes in the first place, most would never let their child pierce their belly buttons
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what is the job description of the ass. editor?
in order to claim this job i have to design a mock yearbook page as though i was the ass.edior
what should i do?
thanks! (link)
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well my assistant editor basically just double checked all my grammar and spellings as well as gave me their opinions on the flow of certain layouts
you basically just do what the editor doesn't have time for
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Okay so yesterday i got the sims 3 collectors edition in the mail. I am DYING to play it but i'm not sure if i should go ahead and install it.
You see i currently have the dell inspiron 6000 and i love it and all but i got 500 $ so i'm going to buy me another laptop in the near future. But what i was wondering is if i install it on JUST this computer ( the sims3) can i uninstall it later and put it on a completley different laptop? (link)
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yes you can, just like with any other sims game
btw- I was kind of disappointed with sims 3, as were my friends
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19/f
Today is the 30th day of my cycle and I started getting a light brown discharge 3 days ago. I usually get my period every 25-33 days. I dont have sore breasts or anything like I usually do and I have only ever had this discharge after my period, NEVER before.
My boyfriend and I dont have sex but we fool around a bit so I doubt i could be pregnant unless he had semen on his fingers or something.
I was on the pill but I have had 3 periods since I stopped taking it and I havent had light brown discharge before any of them.
Should I be concerned? Because Im scared. (link)
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I think your body's just cleaning itself, I've had that happen a few times before and it's always right after I finish my period.
I wouldn't worry
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I want to take a trip to another country like Australia, France, or maybe even Spain. I'm not sure yet, but I know I've been hearing about needing a passport to exit and enter the United States.
How do I apply for a passport and how long does it take to get a passport? (link)
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your local post office will do it for you, and I would do it now if you plan on leaving soon cause it can take a few weeks to get it
-bring your birth certificate, drivers license and social security card
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Hello, first I'd like to give some background info that might help you: I'm a 19 yr. old female, about 5'6", 143lbs (according to my scale), a big tea/coffee drinker, and i tend to eat late a lot. I just finished my freshman year of college and I literally gained 15 pounds! It's now summer and I was just wondering how I could lose weight before school starts or maybe even after a month (wishful thinking)! Could you please tell me how to work out, change my habits, and what/what not to eat?
Additional info: I might not have a lot of time to exercise due to work, but I could do simple things like jogging or crunches, but a gym membership is out of the question.
Thank you all in advance. (link)
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Hey! I'm 18 and I just finished my freshman year too. I understand exactly what your going through, I didn't realize I gained weight until I got home and looked into a familiar mirror and saw a different body staring back and decided I had to get back into shape right away (it doesn't help that my boyfriend is a twig either). And I apologize now for how long this will be.
I'm 5'9" and 140lbs, at one point I weighed 170, then to 130 and now 140. I want to get back to my muscular 130 and I found that there is a system that really worked for me that I made up, and my friends have tried it too and they saw excellent results.
This is definitely hard work, but trust me you will have noticeably lost weight in 2 weeks. Judging from your height and weight I would say you could lose a healthy 5-7lbs in 2 weeks and another 2-3lbs each week for the next 3 weeks after, then 1lb a week after that. So figure 14lbs in 6 weeks with muscle definition forming/appearing.
You eat 3 meals a day here with small snacks in between when you are hungry. I also drink a lot of tea and coffee but I would cut the coffee out if I were you. If you really can't do that do not add sugar to it and only use skim milk.
Drinking a cup of green tea everyday/every other day does wonders for your metabolism and I normally will drink one in the morning to get me going for the day and one at night to help while I relax/sleep.
Besides drinking green tea drink water and orange juice- I wouldn't recommend other juices because they have a lot of sugar added in them and you can not drink soda, there are no exceptions to that- soda can not be in your diet.
Try to eat more natural foods, if you can't picture someone eating this a hundred years ago don't put it in your body. Eat more fruits and vegetables- I don't care of it's organic or not.
Excellent foods for your digestive system are broccoli, spinach, keil and other leafy greens.
example for breakfast:
2 hard boiled eggs (or scrambled in very very light butter) for protein with a cup of green tea and some kind of fruit.
special k plain or with berries is also very good!
example lunch:
salad with mescalin lettuce if you like that kind, it has a lot more nutrients than regular iceberg but if you don't like the taste then stick to the classic- you can add a combination of olives, carrots, peppers, tomatoes, raisins but under no circumstances can you be adding cheeses or nuts. I also did not put dressing on my salad but if you realllllly can't stomach it without dressing buy that 1 calorie spray stuff and limit yourself to 5 calories.
example snack:
yogurt with a bottle of water, or fruit with a glass of skim milk. also a really good idea would be celery (no dipping in ranch!) because it actually helps you digest other foods you have eaten instead of adding to your body's workload.
example dinner:
drink a bottle of water somewhat fast before you eat dinner, it will make you feel fuller so you eat less. for dinner you can eat basically whatever you want but limit yourself to one spoonful on noodles/potatoes and try to take the skin off chicken and the fat off of meats.
notes: do not eat mayonnaise or things loaded with it, and you can treat yourself to chocolate or some dessert item but only once a week- if you know you're going to someone's birthday party save the indulgence for then so you can maintain your diet while having fun and not being rude.
do not eat anything after 8pm at night besides fruit
the workout:
buy good running shoes if you don't have them- at least $70 on a pair and trust me you're gonna use every cent of that investment.
when you wake up splash some water on your face to get you in the mood, do 50 crunches- 10 at a time with 10 second breaks in between. then do 40 side crunches -20 per side at 10 crunch reps with 10 second breaks. stretch your whole body out after you do this and you're going to be more likely to want to exercise again later
when you come home from work go outside around your block or go to your high school track and walk 1 mile (typically 4 laps). then jog a mile, then walk one, then jog one- so this is 4 miles- 2 walked, 2 jogged/ran making 16 laps.
when you come home do the same exercise you did in the morning but throw in push ups- 10 at a time with 10 second breaks, do 30
do the morning exercise and walking and jogging everyday- the after jogging exercise is every other day
after a few weeks when you see you have lost weight if you want you can buy a beginners yoga dvd and mat- like Gaiam brand (that's what I have). I don't do the entire exercise with them all the time, but do at least half of it, it will lean out your figure and you will be more pleased with the results of your hard work
This is just what I did and I lost a total of 40lbs on it in 2 and a half months.
If you find yourself faltering, confused, wanting more exercise/meal ideas or anything!, just message me!
I also would be more than happy to email you an organized day to day chart for this month of what to do (it's good cause this month just started) that I made for myself.
good luck!
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14/f
So I've been liking this guy for about 3 years now and finally got the chance to tell him that I like him about a month ago. He could tell what I was going to say and actually looked happy that I told him. Ever since then he has been acting Crazy nice and flirting a whole lot more. Like randomly running up to me and giving me hugs and CONSTANTLY staring at me. All the time.
Now everyone knows that I like him and won't let me forget it. And I am positive that he likes me back.
The most annoying part is that it's been over a month since I told him an he hasn't given me an answer. (I basicly told him, and he walked away smiling)
Right now I'm at the point where I'm thinking "just drop it, oh well, the last three years of your life are pretty much wasted"
But I understand that he is super shy and he probably has no idea what to think. Although, he flirts with other girls to make me jealous...
So this weekend some of my friends are having a picnic and he's coming. I HAVE to know something. It doesn't matter what it is, even if he doesn't like me back, I need to know something.
What do I do!? Please help me on this. I don't feel like I should go up to him and ask him again... Akward. And flirting my ass off doesn't seem like enough at this point.
(I need to add that I might not see much of him this upcoming school year so I need to do this noww)
Basicly, my mind is beyond confused.
What should I do?
(sorry it was so long) (link)
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When I was younger I was in a similar situation and basically I figured that I spent so much time thinking about him that there was no way I could ignore my feelings. Your best bet is to just talk to him, I would do it in private since it is just the two of you. Maybe at the picnic (if it's in a park) ask him to go for a walk with you and just casually talk to him about it. Don't be pressure heavy and be like go out with me right now or you'll never have a chance again! Just ask him what he's thinking and how he feels about you because you feel confused and need to know if he wants some kind of relationship with you or not.
As you said he obviously likes you, I don't know him, but if you two are very good friends he could be worried that a relationship could spoil that; you really just need to talk to him.
Hope this was helpful!
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