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fighting with stepfather on stupid things
hello, im a 19/f college student. my stepfather haven't seen eye to eye much lately. i ended up not doing so well in my first semester of freshman year and it made my stepdad disappointed. however, now he's accusing me of failing to spite my mother! my mother ended up arguing before i left for college, but does that make sense that i would deliberately ruin my gpa just to get back at my mother? i couldn't believe it when he said that to me. he's a very stubborn person so i was wondering how i could argue with him civilly and try and state my case. thanks in advance!
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Don't argue with his statements about trying to 'spite your mother'.
That kind of comment deserves the same kind of respect you would give the comment 'Clearly you are failing because of the aliens spying on you from Pluto'.
It's a silly, baseless, childish accusation. It doesn't deserve even an argument.
So don't argue. DON'T justify. DON'T give evidence or support that you are not spiting you mother.
Instead, say simply and calmly. "That is silly. I'm not spiting my mother. I know it, and she knows it."
If he keeps going at it, just keep repeating "No. I'm not going to discuss your theory, it’s completely baseless.”
Don't talk about the reasons you ARE struggling until he expresses an interest in the real reasons. If he blows off those real reasons and insists you are doing it out of spite or some equally silly reason, go back to the response of "Nope." and end the conversation.
COMPLETELY stupid ideas don't need to be argued with, that gives them power, they simply need to be disregarded.
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