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Is my body that bad?
22/f
Hi, i work out a lot and i am not the curviest girl. However, I have hips and a booty. See my problem is a woman told me that all people who have abs or a six pack have no shape in their waist.
It really bothered me because since i am black it is assumed that I am supposed to have a big butt and large breast. I am the opposite, I am a big b cup small c cup and I have a decent sized booty. I mean i wear a size 0-2, I have always been a slender girl. My measurements are 29-23-36. But some of the people I am around think that i am too small or have no shape. Some even say that i am less of a black girl because I am not thick enough to be considered a true black girl. I didn't know that it would bother me so much. It is really getting to me. I work out and take pride in my body, but it is a bit discouraging to hear these things. Help me please!!!!!
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Let me tell you something from experience. If you look in the mirror and you (and only you and your own pure thoughts)...you like the way you look, the screw what every body else says. They don't know, and you know why they don't know...I'll tell you: 1. They look at the media, and the media's idea of what is apealing is always changing based on society (which society has yet to realize) 2. Everyone has different taste. Example...Some men like really big boobs and no butt even if the boobs are fake, some men prefer small boobs just as long as they are real, some people like light skin, some people like really dark skin, some people like something inbetween, some people like you to be ALL NATURAL with all your hair and leg and arm hair and everything. Some people like you to be a little "ugly" so they don't have to worry so much about losing you. If you tried to fit everyones oppinion you will never be happy with the way you look. This happened to me several times from when I was in 3rd grade. I was never satisfied cause I always had SOMEONE telling me I was fat. at 127 i was fat, at 135 I was fat, at 160 I was fat, at 150 i was fat, at 130 I still wasn't good enough. I am happy now with my body the way I am. I am losing weight for me because of what I want to wear...but I LOVE MY SELF. I do not hate my body. I am not punishing my body for being the way it is and most of all I FEEL ATTRACTIVE AND SEXY EVERYWHERE I GO! Cause I decide I'm sexy...NOT "YOU" hahahah Hope this helps!
Peace
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everybody is different in their own way and people come in all shapes an sizes
never be made feel like you should fit in with a stereotype.
your perfect the way you are dont listen to people who say you are "less of a black girl"
thats rubbish and a completely ridiculous thing to say because fact is NOT everyone looks the same and if we did how boring would it be.
not every black girl looks like that!
try not to care what people think of you and be happy in your self and YOUR body after all its yours and nobody elses.
they are more then likely just jealous of your what sounds like an awesome figure. =]
honestly dont let people like that get to you they obviously have poor self estem in themselves if they try and knock yours like that.
dont change yourself for anyone or to fit in with anything unless its what you want to do
you are totally right to take pride in your body do not let people like that discourage you!
I hope I helped in anyway =]
<3
Jess
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