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from friends to dates to dating??? or not??
okay so theres this kid that i go to school with and i like him. and were having this dance thing at the end of the year. his friend (lets call him D) asked me who i was going with i was like well i dont know if im even going but if i do i kinda wanna go with (well call him T) T. and D was like oh well he wants to go with you but he doesn't know what you'll say. i was like well i would say yes. so he called T over and we were about to talk then he walked away and i tried talking to him for like the rest of the day. but he walked away every time i came up to him. is it because he doesn't want to go with me? or because hes nervous about it?? and then a couple days later D came up to me again and was like hey whats up. i was like well T hasn't really talked to me since you told me he wanted to go to the dance with me. and D was like well he's nervous about it. i was like oh well i kinda guessed that. and then D said that T wanted to go out with me. i was like oh ok. and then i had to go to class so that ended the conversation. but i guess i want to know like what can i do to make the situation get better? because me and T havent really talked much and we like used to talk all the time. like what can i say to him. i won't see him till Monday but I'll probably talk to him on myspace today or tomorrow. so what can or should i say to him??
please and thank you.
-cuttechick26
(sorry its long)
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i have always had problems with guys. I have gone through this before. you will have to talk to him in person in order for all the awkwardness to disappear. of course if he wont talk to you even when you asked him to talk, then your might have to tell him through myspace (that you need to talk). If he still refuses then i dont think the relationship will stay strong and end quickly. communication is key in relationships. If you are only talking through technology then it's almost like a long-distance relationship. it'll be hard to handle.
i hope this helps =D
---oliepath (or olie for short)
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I wouldn't talk to him over the internet about the situation. That most likely won't get you anywhere. It's best to always talk about things like this in person, especially since he is so nervous. If he is this nervous about asking you to the dance, imagine how weird it would be to actually go with him. So definitely discuss the situation with him Monday at school.
If he is so nervous that he is avoiding you, then you have a problem on your hands. You can't make him ask you, so it's best to confront him straight up and ask why he has been acting differently lately. Then say something along the lines of, "Look, I want to go to the dance with you. D said you were interested, so do you? If not that's cool, but I would like to know."
If you face him with a direct question, he'll have to answer you. Good luck! :]
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He's probably extremely nervous. His friend probably made things a little awkward by being the messenger. Just let him take his time and ask you on his own. Don't talk to 'D' about it anymore, because it might make 'T' even more nervous. If you want to make conversation with T, just be casual and nice and don't mention this dance.. let him do that. You want to make him feel as comfortable as possible. He's probably waiting for the right moment, but his nerves are probably really high.. so be sweet and flirty :]
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