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Little sister is draining my parents retirement fund!
My 30 yr old sister, ‘Sara’, has a five year old daughter, ‘Emma’. Sara has never held a job for more than a few weeks, when she does work, but mostly stays unemployed even though she got her bachelor’s degree a few years ago. My mom and dad are now supporting her and her daughter 100%. They pay for her to live in a quaint little house that my Mom pays the mortgage on, pay for preschool so that Emma will be ready for kindergarten, pay for utilities, food, and clothing for Emma, etc. Sara used to do drugs. Meth, we assume. She seemed to have quit when Emma was born. We are suspecting that she may be doing drugs again, but don’t have any strong reason to suspect. Emma appears to be well cared for and spends a lot of time visiting my parent’s farm, 45 minutes away. She is happy, smart, and healthy. Mom and Dad are just about broke. Both are supposed to be retired. Mom doesn’t even have health insurance. They certainly can’t afford to be supporting Sara and Emma. They’ve talked about getting a reverse mortgage for their farm. They have threatened to force Sara to move out to their little house in the middle of the nowhere is Sara doesn’t get a job. This is a bad option for all. Mom hates the school district and there would definitely not be any jobs out there. She used to live in a cheap apartment, but Mom and Dad ended up paying for that, too. My older sister says they need to just sell the extra “city” house and let Sara figure it out on her own from there. This would mean a lot of work for Mom and Dad (to fix the house up, move Sara out, etc.) plus, they won’t let their granddaughter be thrown out on the street. If you ask Sara what she plans to do, she either yells (at Mom) or says she’s trying. For two years she’s been saying this. We have no good or solid reason to take Emma away from Sara, though I would love to. Emma says her mom just lies around and sleeps all the time, but Emma shows no signs of neglect. Sara is very manipulative and would somehow convince a therapist that Mom and Dad SHOULD keep supporting her (she’s manipulated therapists before). What should they/we/whoever do?
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then its time you go to your mom and dad and say its time for her to grow up and get her own life they need to take things away and give her chores and tell her if you want to have thing it time for you to get a job or your on your own tell them you can help mentor see if people are babyed thier whole life they never learn and when mommy daddy die she cant be baby any more
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This is a hard decision, your sister does not deserve the support but the child needs it. If i were your parents i would stop supporting her and leave her on her own. If she needs to she can sign up for wellfare, isnt that what it was made for? your parents should not be giving up a comfortable life to give your lazy sister a better one. I think you should tell your family your opinion. and if they dont want their granddaughter out on the street, the should take her and leave 'sara' on the streets until she can get her act together. Parents wanting to help is normal, but this has clearly gone to far.
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