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cheating? sorry its long!
Alright so this was 2 months ago, me (15/f) and my basically almost boyfriend (16/m) were at a hockey game for our highschool, and after it he said he was staying at a friends house, well i got a weird feeling but i trusted him. The next day after my basketball game, i get a text from his friend saying its coming directly from my boyfriend that he made out with a nother girl, but he was super drunk. I hear different things all the time, it was his fault, it was the girls, it was his friends fault, but it still makes me feel terrible and ugly and useless and makes me want to vomit just thinking about it. And when i do think about it, i just wanna cry and get mad at my boyfriend cause it bugs me. I could never do something like that to him, drunk or sober. I know he's really sorry but sometimes i wonder if i was stupid enough to forgive him. I know he cares about me like crazy and said he would never do anything like that again. But i just can't get the thought out of my head like i go crazy thinking about it. Blah i just wish it would have never happened, life would be easier, any ideas would help, i apologize that it's long:/
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He's a minor? I'm sorry but that right there is your sign. Big drinkers, usally have a reason. He's the one that should at least behave when hes drunk! If his friends are there, whats stoping them from stoping him? Somethings most defeintally up, he probally: just doesn't care and not sure how to tell you, a family issuse he doesn't wanna talk about or likes you on a more emotional level he has yet to quite understand himself. What's your heart say about all this?
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theres a saying: once a cheater, always a cheater. whether its his fault or not, he still did it. and he should feel remorse. doesnt he know how that makes you feel? whether the guy cares about you or not, it doesnt matter. it still hurts and makes you feel stupid. i get the vibe that this has happened quite a few times. you obviously cant trust him.
dont get revenge, dont forgive him, just leave him. no one deserves this, and obviously you dont. you havent done anything to ever betray him. dont feel like you're stupid to forgive him. forgiving him is just basically you wanting to think that it'll never happen again. but it will. so just leave him, and dont explain why. he already knows. and he'll know that his stupidity made you leave him. he took advantage of you're relationship and hes had enough chances.
just dump him, and get another guy that you do deserve. and in the long run, you'll realize it was the right thing to do. and it was the best for your well-being.
i hope it all works out. take care :)
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well the past is the past and he said he was sorry. i know its hard to forget about but you cant expect to go forward with your relationship if your still thinking bout the past. alcohol was involved so it wasnt all the way his fault. so you need to forget and forgive. i know its hard but its for the sake of your relationship. he only done it once but you need to remeber its like a baseball game 3 strikes your out.
*hope i helped :)
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No boy should make you feel like this. Period. Especially not when you are 15.
First of all you described him as being your "basically almost boyfriend". This is not a boyfriend. If you want to be upset about him being with another girl you need to have clear lines about your relationship otherwise he is free to do what he wants.
Secondly, if he is in fact your boyfriend he has no right to be out and about with another girl. At 15 and 16 he is not worth "fighting" for. You are going to have other more important relationships in your life and this guy who is going out with other girls should just be passed up and you should move on to someone else.
That being said... you said you haven't been able to get a straight story. What is his story? You should only listen to his story because everyone else's story is just that, a story or gossip. If you don't think his story is true or he is not trustworthy enough to believe his story... why even care enough to listen? Move on. A relationship is supposed to be built on trust and communication. If these two things aren't there, there is no relationship and you need to find someone you can share these things with.
Finally, he this this supposed making out when he was drunk?! At 16? This guy sounds like a looser and you should be searching for someone who has a little more ambition than getting drunk and making out with another girl when he has a "basically almost girlfriend".
Best of luck.
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