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Mom and "stepdad" drama. REALLY IMPORTANT
I'm 17/f and I have a sister who's 14.
My parents were divorced about a year ago and my dad moved to Iraq for a year to get a job as a Desktop Analyst for a company where he makes about $10,000 a month. He's moving back after this summer and stuff but my mom and I do NOT get along. We live with her and her boyfriend but it's his house. She makes about $1920 a month with her job before taxes so after taxes, it'd be about $1700-1800. My dad, however, is LEGALLY supposed to be sending my mom ABOUT $2000 a month for child support but is only sending $900, because they had an agreement that as soon as I get a job, he'll buy me a car. However, when my dad comes back when the summer ends, due to all the drama with my mom's boyfriend not liking me, me and my sister are moving with my dad.
But my real question is:
Would it be illegal if until he comes back, if he put the child support in a savings account only for me and my sister to be able to get a hold of?
Because I don't know what my mom does with the money but I know not all of it goes towards us.
She pays for her car, which I very RARELY drive, with the child support and for other things that I don't know about. And when I try and ask her about it, she says it's none of my business. But I'm 17, responsible with money, and sick of being treated like shit and not being able to do anything about it. I would like to support myself rather than relying on my mom to "support" me, if you can even call it that.
If you would please answer this question honestly, I would appreciate it SO much.
Thank you. :D
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I don't see the money going directly to you. One of the complaints fathers have is that they send a check for so much and the mother will not use it all for the child. This is very common. The courts assume that since your mother is an appropriate guardian that she knows best what to do with the money and will look out for you. Plus, you can't just look at it like $900 this month and she only spent 500 on me. You do use utilities, toothpaste, gas for trips to take you places and so on. Those hidden costs do cut into that monthly check. I would think that if your mom agreed to the car deal that she probably isn't just pocketing everything and being selfish. She could have just said no to that and gotten bigger checks. It does sound as if things will be better if you lived with dad. Stepdads often suck.
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Your father can open a savings account at any time and put money in it for you girls, but if you want access to it, your name and your sister's name has to be on the account. So, you'd probably have to wait till he gets back to the states.
As far as child support going to an account for you to access, not likely. Your mother would have to agree to it. Period. Since you live with your mother, the courts don't distinguish what money is spent on you and your sister and what money is spent on your mother or anyone else in the household. As far as they are concerned, you live under the same roof as your mother. Your mother can't leave. She needs a car to do the things she needs to do to raise her children. So you may not feel that you are directly benefiting from the child support money, but you are if you eat the food she buys, get transported in the car she owns, have clothes on your back because she provides them and have a roof over your head because of the house she pays for with that money.
PERHAPS SHE HAS AN ACCOUNT FOR YOU AND YOUR SISTER THAT YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT? COLLEGE FUND?
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