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I don't think I have a right to feel this...
Hello.
K so, I am 13/F and he is 14/M, and well... Here is the thing...
So, for a long time I have liked this boy, and he likes me too, but since we are quite young, and for other reasons, we have decided not to create a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. However, this doesn't stop us from time to time acting like a couple. So yesterday at lunch this girl, she's kind of pretty, came up to him and was like ALL OVER HIM. She started talking to him and she would like grab his hand real quick, or touch his cheek, or tug on his sleeve, or all kinds of stuff, when I was standing right next to him. We were talking and she just comes up and does all of this stuff, and it drove me INSANE. I was like crazy mad and even really jelous. I mean, its not like she knew about our... well, whatever we have... And he isnt my boyfriend, but he likes me and I like him, and I don't know what to do...
Does he have any commitment to me? We agreed that we would wait a bit to make a relationship, and I know he has no intention of dating her or anything like that and that it was all completely harmless flirting, but I also know that he is NOT my boyfriend... So why am I so jelous???
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I think what you need to do is actually tell him about it.
And it might even be useful because if he really likes you he'll actually care about your feelings towards the situation.
You have every right to be jelouse, but don't sit back and watch because he confessed feelings for you. And you haven't dated anyone waiting for him until he is 16, so you have every right to tell him to stop this nonsense actions.
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Well truthfully you have no claim to him so you can't really say anything. Honestly the only thing you can do it sit back and watch it because you guys are just friends. Just because he doesn't push the girl away doesn't me he doesn't like you still. All guys like girls affection no matter which kind. So just stick through it until you guys can actually date then she will understand.
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The most important thing in any relationship is communication. Tell him that the way this girl flirts with him is making you uncomfortable. Tell him that you feel really strongly about him and that even though you aren't dating you consider what you two have to be more than friendship. Also, if he's not allowed to date until he's 16 it's not only that he can't date you. Ask him is he plans to make your relationship more official when he's old enough to date or if for him you two will always be just friends. I do think that the two of you are a bit young for the whole dating scene and it shows your own maturity that you can acknowledge this. That being said, your feelings for this boy are clearly quite strong and so it is natural for you to feel jealous when he gets attention from other girls. I really hope this all works out for you for the best!
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You guys are denying your feelings, which I did in this situation too. Actually, I had dated the guy before, but we broke up, and during the time we weren't dating, I felt exactly the same way you did.
One night, I actually dreamt about biting a girl's earlobe off for trying to seduce him. In my dream of course.
So. I think that you two should give it a go. I mean, if you two like each other so much, and since you already act like a couple, you wouldn't act any different. And, if you really like each other, it should be easier to go back to friends if it doesn't work out. So just try it, and don't rush, just act the same.
The only different think will be that that girl, oh that girl, will finally get off his back. :D
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