I have often been turned to for advice from friends an family members on everything from friends and relationships, to clothes, to how to fix the computer (although I wouldn't call myself an expert in that field). I am a sensible person and I like to think I can see a problem objectively and find a simple and elegant solution to it, but I guess that's up to you to judge.
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Age: 18
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does anyone ever feel like they dont know what to do or how to feel and you just want to crawl in a dark place somewhere and just sleep? not because youre sad in particular, but because you dont want to deal with anything and anyone... how do u get over feeling that way? (link)
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The best way to get through times like these is to just push through them. Make a list of all the things you need to "deal with" then order them by importance. Try to start with the most important thing on your list. If you're having trouble, try something mid way down to get you into the groove. Try to avoid the temptation to just sit around and do nothing. Try not to let yourself get distracted by frivolous things but let your efforts to be productive distract you from feeling down. The best thing for you to do is to keep busy. And listen to happy music. This may all sound a bit disjointed so just remember this; we all feel down sometimes and it is important to acknowledge these feelings. Try to figure out if there really is a reason behind it but if you can't come up with one, keep busy. If nothing else, you may find that you have accomplished something (even something as fixing a bookshelf or organizing some papers) which may cheer you up, which may motivate you to accomplish something else, which will start an upbeat and productive cycle. I wish you all the best!
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so i have this classmate who is dating somone who lives near me but she lives far away. she always asks to sleepover my house, which i now realize is so that she can see him. whenever she sleeps over she she immeadiatly leaves in the morning to be with him and doesnt come back until the night. every time see ditches me to see him and never answers my texts when i ask where she is. She will sleep at my house friday night, leave in the morning until 7, come home and change and go with him to a movie, then come home and go to sleep. we dont really talk besides when she needs to stay at my house. I know i am being used and she does this to a lot of people and i must add that her bf is not very nice to me either. how do we get back at her for this?? (link)
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Although revenge is often our first impulse, it is very time consuming and seldom very satisfying. I would suggest that rather than "getting back at her" you simply cut her off. Next time she asks to stay over tell her your busy. If she presses you for details don't be put off just restate that your sorry, but she can't come over. If all else fails, blame you parents and say that they don't want you to have friends over. If she asks you again in the future and you don't want her staying over, go ahead and explain that you don't like that she only comes over to spend time with her boyfriend rather than spend time with her host (aka you). Talk to the other people who she has been using and find out if they feel bothered the way that you do. If they do, mention that you've cut her off and encourage them to do the same.
You shouldn't have to put up with this girl and her boyfriend. A "friendship" where you are getting walked all over is not a friendship worth putting effort into be it positive in trying to fit the relationship or negative in seeking out revenge.
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i have dirty but shiny blonde hair. it's kind of hard to explain, but it's a darker shade of blonde but it gets really light in the summer time. it's also kind of wavy but i want it curly. I have side bangs, but they can be turned into straight blunt bangs if i knew how.
Lately i've been really bored with my hair and make up. I want to know how to get curly/wavy hair that's sleek and smooth and shiny. also, some pin-straight styling tips would be good since i get the flip at the ends when i straighten my hair. I don't really want to go out and buy anything so here's what I have--- straightener, volumizer rollers, curling rollers, and a whole bunch of straightening and volumizing hair products. my latest curling iron broke, so i can't use that.
i love taylor swift's hair and i want something similar but less puffy and supermodel-esque. im in the 7th grade so anything grown up makes me look 17. easy curling and straightening or very cute styles would be greatly appreciated. i really want to do something with my bangs, so any tips on that would be great.
also for my make up, i want something to really bring out the brightness and blue in my blue/green/gray eyes. i've used almay's play up the blue before, and i dont really like it. i love the saying less is more, so the less make up i put on makes me actually look my age instead of older.
im sorry this is so long, but more descriptions the better for hair and make up. thanks in advance everyone!
**websites would be great too*** (link)
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Lets start with your hair. I'm assuming you want something quick and easy so here's my advice. If you want to use curlers, wash your hair at night and towel dry it. But whatever product into it and work it through completely. You my want to work in a bit of hairspray/mouse although with blond hair you have to go easy so your hair won't look dirty. Put your hair in the curlers. Of course, the less hair you but on each curler the tighter the curl. If your a bit short on curlers, focus on the front and then let the back be a bit looser. Once all your hair is in the curlers, go over it with a blow dryer in the low, hot setting. (If your hair frizzes easily go for the warm setting)do this for as long as you can stand but don't worry about getting your hair completely dry. Ideally, your hair will have started to dry itself around the front as you put the curlers in, just make sure your hair isn't dripping when you start. Wrap a thin towel/old t-shirt/clean book-sock(I'm not kidding) all around your hair and tie/pin it in place as best as you can. Go to bed. Try to fall asleep on side so there isn't too much pressure on the curlers.
In the morning take the towel off and pull the hair out of the curlers. Start with the bottom/back of your head. If your hair is still a bit damp, take the hair out in layer and blow dry each layer as it comes out. DON'T BRUSH YOUR HAIR. Finger through it while you blow dry only if you need to. If your hair is coming out dry then go ahead and take it all out and just blow dry any spots that need it carefully.
Run through your hair with a large tooth comb or your fingers. if its too curly then brush it our a bit. Don't use a boar-bristle brush or a regular comb though because this will turn your curl into poof. If your hair doesn't tend to hold a curl well, they spritz on a bit of hair spray. You can just spray it onto your hands and then bunch it through your hair. and Voila!
For this, wet just your bangs in the morning and then blow dry them on a round brush so that they stand away from your face and curl under.
For straight hair, start with dry hair. If your hair is pretty wavy, blow dry it straight (over a round brush) before you get started.
Clip the top half of your hair to your head so your working with they layer that starts at the top of your ears. with a comb, separate 1-2 inch portions and feel them into your straightener. Make sure the strands aren't stacked up the straightener and pull it out and away rather than just down. At the top of the section of hair, the hair should be coming out of the straightener at about a 35 degree angle to your head. As you go down the strand, turn the iron so that its is parallel to the hair going though it. About three inches from the end, turn it to a -30 degree angle as if you were flipping it out. This sounds complicated but it will become second nature once you get it. Essentially the straightener is curling under, then straight, then out. This way you avoid creases.
Let your hair down then clip up the layer starting at your temple. Repeat above. Let down all hair except bangs, repeat again.
At this point, if your hair still looks a bit flipped in/out, go over it again with the straightener against the curl. Don't use too sharp and angle though because that will damage your hair, causing frizz.
For your bangs, brush them straight up with a comb and run them through the straightener, also straight up. Again, Voila!
It is gets static-y, run a dryer sheet over your hair or spray a little hairspray on a come and pull it through. Also, use some sort of smoothing serum before drying your hair if you want.
For make-up, to make your eyes look more notifiable, play down the lip and face. Try not to put anything on your face except maybe a little cover-up if you want. Use a nude or clear lip balm/gloss.
For your actual eyes, brighten them by putting a white or beige shadow on the inside and outside corners and up to your brow bone. Do a chocolaty color on your eyelid. Try lining in a reddish/orange-ish brown color under the shadow. Orange is the opposite of blue so putting warm tones on your eyelids will make the blue of your eyes pop!
I hope all this was helpful! Best of luck!
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Hello.
K so, I am 13/F and he is 14/M, and well... Here is the thing...
So, for a long time I have liked this boy, and he likes me too, but since we are quite young, and for other reasons, we have decided not to create a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. However, this doesn't stop us from time to time acting like a couple. So yesterday at lunch this girl, she's kind of pretty, came up to him and was like ALL OVER HIM. She started talking to him and she would like grab his hand real quick, or touch his cheek, or tug on his sleeve, or all kinds of stuff, when I was standing right next to him. We were talking and she just comes up and does all of this stuff, and it drove me INSANE. I was like crazy mad and even really jelous. I mean, its not like she knew about our... well, whatever we have... And he isnt my boyfriend, but he likes me and I like him, and I don't know what to do...
Does he have any commitment to me? We agreed that we would wait a bit to make a relationship, and I know he has no intention of dating her or anything like that and that it was all completely harmless flirting, but I also know that he is NOT my boyfriend... So why am I so jelous??? (link)
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The most important thing in any relationship is communication. Tell him that the way this girl flirts with him is making you uncomfortable. Tell him that you feel really strongly about him and that even though you aren't dating you consider what you two have to be more than friendship. Also, if he's not allowed to date until he's 16 it's not only that he can't date you. Ask him is he plans to make your relationship more official when he's old enough to date or if for him you two will always be just friends. I do think that the two of you are a bit young for the whole dating scene and it shows your own maturity that you can acknowledge this. That being said, your feelings for this boy are clearly quite strong and so it is natural for you to feel jealous when he gets attention from other girls. I really hope this all works out for you for the best!
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