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having children
I am a happily married 26 yr old lady. My husband and I are married 4 years as of today. My dilemma comes from us not having children yet. Both our parents are pretty much pushing us and nagging about "where are my grand babies?" I've told them we aren't stopping anything that it will happen when god lets it happen. Apparently that isn't good enough. I'm starting to get depressed now about it. Everything from us trying for 4 years to them nagging and then old family friends asking about it too, just makes me feel useless. I can't afford to go to a doctor to see why we haven't had children yet, so we are just going with god for now. Any other advice about it? I really wish someone could make me feel better, tell me a better way to deal with it or maybe someone knows something I don't. --Thanks
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Well, I'm not too familiar with this topic but I've read up on some things like this.. Stress is a major factor, and it affects having a baby in some way, maybe a holiday for just the two of you could help, because you get to get away from the stress from family and friends, also your husband's sperm count could be low, he could try eating beans and lentils, as that increases one's sperm count. That's all i have.. Hope it helps.. :D
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Some people just aren't destined to make babies of their own. There are many babies out there, with no families, just waiting for someone to adopt them. If you are ready for children, please consider saving a child from a hardship of living with the state. I'm sure your family will back you about your decision, and give you all the support you need.
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With your family and close friends, develop a spine, and tell them in no uncertain terms to back off.
Be gentle, but firm. Remind them that you love them, and that you would like to have children, but that their constant questioning is upsetting and stressful to you. Tell them it's not acceptable and to stop. Promise to tell them just as soon as there are any new developments to report.
With people are less close too, also develop a spine, and politely ignore them. Change the subject. If they resist, smile and tell them you think that is a private matter but if and when you do get pregnant, you're sure you'll be screaming it from the rooftops.
Then, if this is important to you, start saving your pennies to see a doctor and/or researching non-for-profit health services (there are a plethora out there for women, and a few for men as well) who might be able to get the ball rolling on any examining any medical issues. There isn’t a magic trick that works for everyone when it comes to conception, so my best advice to you is to start doing your research and to stop allowing people to make you uncomfortable.
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