|
engaged to a man I love but still got strong feelings for my best friend.
Ok so heres tha thing... Im 18 and Im engaged to a 32 year old. Yes I do love him. But at the same time I have feeling for one of my best freinds. I have been around allen(my best friend) longer and I at one point thought I loved him... But he has a baby on tha way. And all the baby momma drama is driving me crazy. She stalks me and everything. He is always going to have her in his life and he drinks a lot. Hes a great friend but when i told him I loved him tha first time he told me that he was always going to be a cheater. so I got it. I said fuck it and we were just friends until the other day he told me that he has fallin in love with me and we wants me. and now im stuck in this situation. I dont kno what to do. :( I dont know how to let him down easy. I dont even know if I want to. Im just so damn lost..
the man Im marrying is in jail right now. but I love him. we have plans. we are going to move back to Florida.. and Im going back to college down there. and he loves me.
allen well he lives with his mom and dad hes 23 and he just got a DUI and he works at a factory. hes more than likely gonna be living here all his life. Not what I want to do
ugh I need advice :(
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Your situation is gross. To be honest, neither of these guys sound good.
Your current fiance is in jail, 32 & has no way to support you or himself when he gets out. Finding a job in this economy is hard as hell. I'm your age, am moved out of my house, live 2000 miles away from my family, and have been struggling to find a job in my new state since I got here. It'll be 2 months on the 11th. Take it from me, life is hard & if you go with this guy, you'll be screwed & not in the good way. ;)
As for Allen, he sounds like a joke too. He lives at home, he's 23, & he got a DUI & he drinks & has a baby on the way. On top of that, he's a cheater. That's just asking for a broken heart. DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH HIM ROMANTICALLY. If anything, stay his friend. The baggage getting into a relationship with him will bring will be unbearable for you & it's not something you need. Nobody needs the drama of a baby mama, or a baby. If you get into it with him, the baby will be on you for support if she decides to be a lazy mother. She should seriously be on:
www.whythefuckdoyouhaveakid.com
Break off the engagement with your fiance, do not get involved with your friend Allen, & find yourself a real man. One who isn't finding himself at home with mom & dad or behind bars. You're 18. You can do A LOT better with your life than throw it away over some scummy guys.
]
My question is why? I think you can do better than a cheater and an xcon. At least your friend is honest with you and told you he really aint about shit. Leave him and his babys mom alone. Let her trip off him. She's stuck with him you're not! And of course guy in jail wants to marry you and say sweet things to you! Why? Because he's in jail! Of course he would pick you. Why? Because you're 18 and he knows he can run game and morethan likely you will accept it. You don't have to. You're only 18! Go to spring break or something! You should be having fun and not worried about two straight suckas! You can do better than that! Much Love!
]
truthfully?? i would dump them both. your fiance is 32 and you are 18, why are you getting married when you are going to college soon? but if you really do love them, i say pick the person you're engaged too. cant you see your friend is a cheater??
]
More Questions: |