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is it weird?
ok i'm 18 and he's 19, we dated for two years and really loved each other a lot. we'd never felt that way about anyone before, were completely in love, even talked about getting engaged and married and everything. well, we had some problems, and between those and the stress in each of our own lives, we broke up a few weeks ago. he said then and now that he still wants to get back with me in the future and still wants to marry me, but he just needs some time to himself right now. at first, yeah i was really torn up and so hurt and felt like everything was my fault and all i wanted was him back. but after about a week, i've been pretty much fine. it's weird not having him around and having someone always there, but i'm not upset anymore. i dont think i'll ever find anyone else like him and that kind of hurts, and after all the trouble i dont even really think it's worth it to get back together, but why am i not hurting? for being together nearly two years, i thought it would take me months to get over him, so why was it like a week? seriously what's going on? usually i'm the type that does take a long time to get over someone, so why is it different with my first & true love? i really don't hurt anymore, i dont even know if i want him back.. i didn't expect that? i know i loved him... so what the heck? is this weird? i'm not in denial or avoiding the subject or anything, so i'm really confused.
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You shouldn't stress about why you aren't morning him like you thought. You say that he was your first and true love? What if he is only ment to be your first but not your last? Maybe you have grown appart and want different things. He says he still wants to marry you and maybe someday he will. Today how ever you should let him know how you feel, that way he won't try and say you were leading him on, and focus on the things in your life that need your attention now.
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There are two potential reasons I can think of.
Number one, you two are young. Not too young for that kind of relationship, but you were definitely young when you started dating. People change between age 16/17 and 18/19. A lot. You may have grown apart without even realizing it, and without feeling a reduction in the love you have for each other.
The other reason: he pulled kind of a (pardon my language) dick move when he decided he wanted time to himself. If my fiance had done that to me, he would rapidly have found himself minus some essential male body parts, if you catch my drift. If you really want to marry someone, you don't tell them to wait for a while because you need time to yourself.
There's nothing wrong with you moving on. I applaud it, actually. :)
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I'm no psyciarist (I can't even spell the word!) But I'd say, no, you're not weird/crazy. It's odd the way the heart works, sometimes agonizing over a crush, and other times letting a loved one go. My assumption is either A) You realize that you still love each other, and probably WILL go on to be married some day, so you're not fretting now, or B) You knew all along, deep down, that this would probably come to be or even C) You know there is work to be done, and you're not letting yourself dwell on the past.
Any situation is weird to think about because generally, those are sub-concious thoughts. And it's great that you're past the emotional wreck stage so soon! Less money spent on chocolate and tissues, eh? ;)
If you need any more help, feel free to message me.
Hope that helps!
JK
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