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i dont understand people.
how come people always come to me to borrow or use something?
like, someone once said, "oh i would ask so-and-so but so-and-so is too nice."
its not like i know the person any less than so-and-so unless the borrower just felt more comfortable with me? or doesnt care about.. i dunno.
i dont get it. what are your principles when it comes to borrowing other people's stuff?
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I think the reason why people borrow so much from you is because they see you as someone who is always prepared for anything. Someone they can always depend on. That is a plus because it adds so much to your character but of course it can be tiresome also because you would always have people coming to you for help. This is not really a problem though. I know it is hard to say no especially to people you are close to, but you can say it. Just do it nicely. Try saying things like, " I'm sorry I know you need this thing but I'm still using it at the moment." I don't borrow stuff from other people except from my sister because she has the coolest things. I get embarrassed because they might think I'm needy or something. Hope this helps.
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It all depends on who is asking you, and what their asking for. If their a best friend- I can understand. If their not anywhere close, tell them no. You don't really know if their using you unless you tell them no, it's yours. Depending on what they want to borrow. The only time I borrow my BEST FRIEND(s) Clothes is if we trade for one day, and return after school. I don't borrow anything else other than clothes. Inbox me if you need more!
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hmmmmm... personally if I borrow something from someone I usually go to someone who i know won't mind, or if i feel comfortable enough to ask them.
However it really does just depend on what kind of stuff people are borrowing. I found that once someone borrows something, more people will come to you to borrow stuff... just because they know you'll let them.
This happened to me when i was at school and i got so much stuff broken i just had to start saying no to people. and although i felt bad, my stuff didn't get broken :)
If it starts bothering you then i suggest to just say no, but explain why so they don't get pissy at you :)
hope this helps! xxx
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