I don't want my ex friend to ruin her life but i hate her
Question Posted Sunday March 15 2009, 8:19 am
I don't know what to do!!!
My friend Lo is really bitchy. She bitch about us in MSN and we're nice to her. She just thinks we ignore her a lot but she was just the one who doesn't talk and never tries. Lately it's getting worse and worse and this has been going on for about 1 month now. She's happy, she's sad. She spends most of her days crying and sobbing OOOH MY LIFE SUCKS! But she was the one who never tries. After a few weeks of this we were getting tired. Tired of her mood swings and bitching. Tired of her nosiness and jjjjjjjust wanted her to leave but she stuck to us. Now everyday I have to face her complaining and being a bitch to me.
Just now, she said on MSN that she wants to start doing drugs which really caught my eye, because it'll ruin her life. I know I hate her but i hate to see her ruin her life because of something so SMALL.
She wants us to be friends again but that is impossible. Like if someone liked her and was her friend I would easily stop being friends with her but the problem is now NO ONE likes her. In my class NO ONE likes her. If we really did give her up then who knows what she might do when she's gotten to the point where she wants to take drugs and talked about dying?!?
BEING FRIENDS AGAIN IS IMPOSSIBLE BUT THAT"S THE ONLY THING THAT WILL MAKE HER FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF AGAIN, but is there another way? She thinks I don't care about her feelings! And now she doesn't even know what her brain is thinking about! How did such a small thing become so big? I know part of the reason is because she is a drama queen but I know it's not entirely her fault, but i just really can't be friends with her anymore.
HELP! WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? AskCollegeGirl answered Tuesday March 17 2009, 4:53 am: I have a friend exactly like that! She only wants to be your friend if its convenient for her! My advice is you should as her "friend" be blunt and honest say everything thats bothering you even if she won't like it. Just say something like, I feel very frustrated at you because you complain a lot; it's emotionally draining and it's come to the point where I can't take it anymore. I would still like to be your friend but I feel that if you want us to be friends with you, you have to tell us how we can help you otherwise we don't know how to deal with this. If you continue to act like this I'm afraid I can't be your friend anymore. By saying this it basically tells her the ball is in her court if she wants to be friends then she has to make an effort and if she doesn't you basically told her you don't want to be her friend.
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spixieeex3 answered Sunday March 15 2009, 10:01 pm: I understand you don't want to be her friend again, but she really needs a real friend right now, the least you can do is try. Being friends again with her is not impossible, anything is possible. I know it's probably crazier and more messed up than I think it is, but I had a similar situation, so I understand your point. What you need to do is talk to her and ask her why she's acting this way. You need to let her know that if there's anything she's bottling up and keeping a secret that she could tell you. I wouldn't be surprised if there are some issues going on in her private life. You need to let her know that whatever the problem really is, keeping it inside isn't going to do her any justice. You need to try a little harder, no offense at all but it's selfish to just sit there & say there's no way we can be friends anymore but she's driving me crazy. And if and once the thing about doing drugs or wanting to die seems to get out of hand, you need to go talk to an adult because she needs professional help. If it's already gotten out of hand, I suggest you do that ASAP. [ spixieeex3's advice column | Ask spixieeex3 A Question ]
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