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Okay, so I have two friends, A and B. They're 'best friends'. The reason i put it in quotes is because it doesn't seem like they're REAL best friends. Like there friends but are 'best' friends for the label.
Anyway, well A and me got into a fight. I have anger problems so when I get mad I get really mad, and so I tried to let some distence go between me and A so that I would get over it and we would never get to the whole me screaming and yelling stage. (Pretty much the whole fight was over this guy,C)C is A's Boyfriend. Well, B is a follower, pretty much A is the puppet master and B is the pupet. So me and A worked our fight out and we were all cool. Then, today, B is like freaking out because I wouldn't buy her a cookie at lunch(she promises to pay me back then doesn't, so i'm done) and I got one for myself and she was like freaking out that I wouldn't give her some of mine. Then, she brought up this morning. This morning me A&B were at my locker and This other girl H came and was just like talking with us. Well H and I were talking about Track (Me and A are on the team) I was telling H how our school track is a joke and like 2 people take it seriously. **back to lunch** B was telling me how I hurt A. But I wasn't talking about A.(A thinks shes good, but shes not) and so I was defending my self saying that I didn't mean it that way, and if she took it that way, then it was an accident because it wasn't ment to be taken that way.
Well B was like oh my god, w/e and like freaking out so we stopped talking.THENNN, we (B&I) were going to go to the libray to do homework but my other friends(I have other friends, so does A, but B doesn't)were staying out and just chilling. I wanted to do that to and B was like no, homeworrk and I was like do it out here or you can go to the libray yourself, it wasn't that big of a deal, but she took it as if the world was ending. So shes doing spanish I'm doing spanish and shes like hiding her answers like i'm trying to copy off her and I was like dude chill and she goes i'm not letting you copy off me, and I said okay, i'm not trying to(she was giving attitude, i wasn't and i was just like letting it go) and then I was just like, don't ask for stuff from me and B goes what? And i was like remember when you asked for the english prompt for an in class essay (so she could find quotes prior from going into class, I didn't think this was fair, first, I barly got to finish so I didn't want her to get an advantage and second thats cheating and thats a big deal and i'm not getting into trouble for something dumb like that) Anyway and she goes Yes, and I was like you were freaking out because i wouldn't give it to you, and since your not willing to let me copy your stuff(even though i wasn't going to) i'm not going to let you copy mytuff, and she said fine.
Today, after school I went up to A, even though I wasn't sorry**, and basicly, told her that What I said this morning wasn't about her and just explained myself saying that I was sorry and A was like oh, well don'dt even worry about it. I don't care.
And i was like that was weird, since B said she was pissed. so i texted B: here is the convo, B=B, and I is me.
I: I talked to A and she said that she was fine and she didn't care
B:Cool, cuase shes done dealing with you and so am i.
I:Excuse me?
B:WHat. I mean it your nothing but mean to both of us and frankly i'm sick of it. Friends don't treat people like shit
I:what do I say
B:i'm not gonna tell you want to say
I:i said what do i say. Meaning what so meant that i say...
B:everything if i ever said that stuff you u you'd like tell me off. Its building up and i'm sick of it.
**text to long so i'll sumerize
Basicly, I asked for examples and she was like this morning(track thing), lunch, spanish homework, to our parents. And i was like what do i say to your parents, cuz i think that you should be very polite to adults, and i know that i'm respectful to adults. A's parents are funny and kids themselves so i'm funny with them. They don't seem to mind. BUt B goes your obnoxious and act like your 10. and she was going on about how A's parents think that to, and B's parents don't like that thing. I'm never with B's parents so don't understand that. But I don't understand what I did wrong
Whos wrong here?**i know we all are in a little way
Do I need to change?
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okay i really dont knw who is wrong but if you want them to be your friends then maybe you should change maybe think before you say stuff and i have anger problems to but when someone makes you mad just tell them im not in the mood so just leave me alone please
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Wow - a 3 some is SO hard to manage. When you have 3 girls, one is going to be a 'leader' and one a 'follower' and one just plain stuck in the middle. And the roles can change day-to-day.
There is always a power struggle over 'who is the BEST friend' and 'who is the extra' in the group of 3.
It sounds like B is trying to keep the drama going to make herself the 'best friend' to A and to keep you as the 'extra'. You said B doesn't have any other friends, so she is trying hard to hold on to A.
I don't know if you really did anything wrong. There is always more than one side of the story. Just the fact you are willing to look at yourself and try to figure out what you did wrong, proves you care that you are a good person, and you are trying to do what is best.
If A said she is OK, you really have no choice but to trust that she is OK - and hopefully B will not get her upset all over again by keeping things going.
I know it is HARD HARD HARD .. but sometimes when drama is involved, it is easier to 'move on' than to try to solve everything.
The earlier in life you learn to say 'WHAT EVER!' and let it go - the quicker you will learn to just drop it. Because you can't change B's behavior. She is who she is - just don't let her dump on your self esteem or confidence.
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