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Pregnant need help--so scared!!!!
So Im 15, and Im pregnant, I don't know what to do Im so lost and confused, I guess I don't want a lecture of Im too young because its already done and over with. I dont really believe it yet, I dont know why but I don't. I have taken 4 tests today they were all positive, I might try and take 2 more tomorrow. But I guess my main questions are right now--
How am I suppost to tell my parents? They are very religious and they do not like my boyfriend at all who is also my baby's dad.... They dont even know I am sexually active, they think Im still a virgin.
I'm also on a lot of medicine can that affect the baby? Im not very far along only like a month but Im on Cymbalta because I am depressed, also I take Zyrtec, Singulair, and Advair which are all for allergies and asthma...
I also just started the garnasil vacination series today when I went to my dr. can that affect my baby?
Is there any way that all the tests I took today were wrong and I could still not be pregnant, I should have had my period on the 22 of this month.
Im just confused and lost right now, so even some words of comfort might help.
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If you have already taken 4 tests than you can pretty much bet your cookies that you are pregnant. But you should still go to a doctor for confirmation.
The best way to tell your parents is to just flat out say it. You are scared and your parents are most likely/hopefully going to be your biggest support system. Tell them your worries, admit your mistake, and remind them that what's done is done and you would really appreciate it if they would help you.
You need to get to the doctor as fast as you can. You aren't supposed to take any medication when you are pregnant, so talking to your doctor about your medication is extrememly important to you and your babies health. The faster you get to the doctor, the better.
A baby is a blessing. Remember that, never forget it.
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First, take a deep breath ... I know this is a very big, life changing situation. You have a lot of decisions to make, but they don't all need to be made at once.
If you are pregnant, there is no way to get around telling your parents. Yes, they may be angry, upset and disappointed initially. Accept it, you can't change their reaction. But they love you and will get past their initial shock and will want to help and protect you. After all - this is their grandchild you are carrying and you are their loved daughter.
If they don't like your boyfriend now, they won't like him anymore now that you are pregnant. They may even blame him for not protecting you, even though it takes two to tango. There isn't anything you can do to change their relationship - so don't make that a primary worry. This is something that can be addressed and worked on later.
The doctor can answer the questions on the baby's health and medication...one step at a time and you will cross that bridge when you come to it.
Good luck to you. This may not be the way you planned your life, but it IS something you can deal with.
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1. If ONE home pregnancy test shows positive then you are absolutely, 100% pregnant, no doubt about it. The home pregnancy tests look for a specific hormone level that is only made during pregnant--no other time, whatsoever. You are DEFINITELY PREGNANT. At this point it's simply a waste of money to purchase more pregnancy tests, especially after taking four.
2. You need to go to your doctor right NOW (this very second) and tell them you are pregnant. The medications you are taking can hurt the infant dramatically, including the baby being born with retardation and developmental difficulties (even seizures), drug addiction, bodily deformities, and even a dead birth. It is very, very IMPORTANT to see your doctor IMMEDIATELY and say, "Hey, I am pregnant and I am taking X,Y,Z medications. Help! I want a healthy baby!"
3. "Pregnant women should avoid the [Gardasil] vaccine, even if doses of the three-part series have been given. The remaining doses of the vaccine can be resumed after pregnancy."
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Tell your doctor IMMEDIATELY so the other vaccine dosages will be taken at a later date, after your pregnancy. At this moment, nobody knows what Gardasil may do to an unborn child. They're not sure because they haven't been able to do long-term studies on pregnant women who have taken the vaccine. This means that MAJOR problems can develop--the same that I listed above with your other medications, including fertility or hormonal problems as the baby ages into adulthood.
4. Tell your parents, straight up, that you've made a terrible mistake and have gotten pregnant. Your parents are not perfect human beings either and I'm sure they've made mistakes too--some big, some little. Let them know that this is a time that you're in need of help, that you've learned your lesson on NEEDING to listen to them, and that you desperately want to give your child a proper life (whatever that means to you--keeping it or adopting it out). Your parents are going to be hurt that you disobeyed in a very bad way, but they are your parents. They love you and once they realize that the child you are carrying in you is essentially a part of them--their grandchild--then they will love it too.
When you tell them that you are pregnant, they will know you are confused. They will know that you are scared. They will understand if you break down and cry. They will understand. The quicker you come out to them and let them know about your mistake then the quicker they can begin helping you. The sooner you tell them about what has happened, the easier it's going to be to earn their trust back (because you're not HIDING it, too).
Relax. It will all be okay. Lots of girls end up this way now and they make it through it. All I have left to say is:
Do not abort.
Please, don't abort this child--for your sake as well as the baby's.
If you're considering it, for whatever reason, PLEASE read what I have to say first...right here:
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Everything is going to turn out alright if you head in the right direction now. Go see your doctor tomorrow about the medications. Tell your other doctor that you're pregnant and will not be able to take the rest of the Gardasil vaccines until you give birth, for the health of your baby. Sit down tomorrow (or this evening) and tell your parents what has happened, what your plans are so far (and, yes, it's perfectly fine to say, "I don't know what I'm doing. Please help me"), and whatever else you need to get off your chest. They'll be hurt, upset, and confused--it's natural. Work with them, try to comfort them about the problem too and you will find your own comfort.
Lastly, if you believe in God...pray. Pray for the wisdom and strength. Pray for help in all forms. Pray for forgiveness.
This will be okay.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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